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Barbara Windsor why are some people up in arms?

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infoman Mon 19-May-25 04:07:38

Her Husband has started "holding hands" with a new friend,
why do some people think its wrong?
Five years have gone by since Barbara Windsor left us,
is there a time limit when we are not allowed to find fresh love?

Georgesgran Mon 19-May-25 21:12:33

Blimey emelie. - just wondering where you are and if you are too young to remember Babs?

Allira Mon 19-May-25 21:18:15

Georgesgran

Blimey emelie. - just wondering where you are and if you are too young to remember Babs?

Even if someone never watched EastEnders, there were all those Carry On films!

Pondlife Mon 19-May-25 23:02:15

Is it really 5 years since Babs died. That’s shocking time goes by so quickly!

Best of luck to him

Galton Tue 20-May-25 05:30:59

Speaking of Sex I once heard this said by a woman and thought how true:-

Sex is like making your own pastry.
You really know you ought to but really you cannot be bothered.

David49 Tue 20-May-25 07:24:36

Galton

Speaking of Sex I once heard this said by a woman and thought how true:-

Sex is like making your own pastry.
You really know you ought to but really you cannot be bothered.

Everyone is different, my new partner divorced her husband at 60, after a few weeks I asked her why, “I hadn’t had a cuddle for 10 yrs, nothing”
I quickly found out she had a strong libido, intimacy is only part of any relationship, our lives very quickly merged into one. She fits in with my friends, I like hers, my family all like her.
A win win for both of us

Cardashian123 Fri 23-May-25 08:38:53

Sparklefizz

I met a chap on a blind date. We got on well and he asked if I wanted to meet up again. I said I was free on Friday and he said "Oh, I can't manage Friday, that's my wife's funeral." shock

I too met a chap on a blind date. We were sitting in a pub garden having a drink when he told me he’d better get to the hospital as it was visiting time in the maternity ward where his wife just had a baby!!

Witzend Fri 23-May-25 10:05:36

IMO anyone who’s gone through years of dementia with a partner who’s since died, is entitled to find happiness with someone else, if they want to.

So many people have absolutely no idea of what living with dementia can mean in practice- I mean the day to day realities - and are all too ready to pontificate/make sanctimonious comments.

Mt61 Fri 23-May-25 10:11:22

Yorkshirebel

Ten years after my husband died I married his best friend.Our local professional gossip told the village knit and natter group that we had definitely been having an affair before my first husband died.She was quite wrong but some of them still believed her

I know of three widows that went on to marry the brothers.

David49 Fri 23-May-25 15:45:40

Mt61

Yorkshirebel

Ten years after my husband died I married his best friend.Our local professional gossip told the village knit and natter group that we had definitely been having an affair before my first husband died.She was quite wrong but some of them still believed her

I know of three widows that went on to marry the brothers.

It makes it much easier if you have known your new partner previously, you know their character. I have known my new wife for 40yrs, we are part of an extended social circle, we just happened to become single at the same time. We both admit being together is not as we expected, it’s been much better

Macadia Fri 23-May-25 19:59:40

In the dementia ward was a nice man whos dedicated wife woyld ride the bus daily to see him. He completely forgot who she was and one day was just sitting on a bench, holding hands with another patient - his new friend.

His wife was happy for him.

Maybe it isnt death when we part.

Sparklefizz Sat 24-May-25 08:39:34

Cardashian123

Sparklefizz

I met a chap on a blind date. We got on well and he asked if I wanted to meet up again. I said I was free on Friday and he said "Oh, I can't manage Friday, that's my wife's funeral." shock

I too met a chap on a blind date. We were sitting in a pub garden having a drink when he told me he’d better get to the hospital as it was visiting time in the maternity ward where his wife just had a baby!!

OMG Cardashian123. I think you met my husband!! (now ex)