People who pretend they don't know you.

Oddly enough, one of my daughters is a super recogniser, who’ll remember a face she saw briefly at a railway station months ago!

It has been said that rejection is protection.

Asking about grandchildren is hurtful and very personal. I don't mind people asking personal questions once we have built up a friendship.

I have wonderful neighbours either side but two really nosy ones that I just ended up blanking. Some people don't have emotional intelligence I suppose.

I will use those answers in future.

I don’t think the two things go together - they don't for me, anyway Oldnproud
Looks like they do for some people ….taken from the nhs website

recognising emotions on people's faces ( that’s definitely not a problem for me )
recognising people's age and gender (again no problem)
recognising characters and following plots in TV programmes or films (yes often a problem I don’t recognise actors when they are in different roles)
recognising other things, such as cars or animals ( no idea what car is what,…. animals fine)
finding your way around (YES big time)

Oldfrill Thanks fir the link, it’s interesting and gives the problem some if us have, an airing, which helps more people understand why sometimes people appear not to recognise others.
I have just signed onto the Bournemouth university research study.

silverlining48

Oldfrill Thanks fir the link, it’s interesting and gives the problem some if us have, an airing, which helps more people understand why sometimes people appear not to recognise others.
I have just signed onto the Bournemouth university research study.

Glad to have helped, good luck with the research . Spread the word - it can be a very isolating condition.

I get a lift each week to an evening class. I get picked up in an easy to stop loop of the main street. I have to peer into every car that stops in case I get into the wrong car. I opened the door of one car and started to climb in until I realised the driver was a rather scared pizza delivery man.
The cars are both blue and it was dark.

Another odd thing I notice about friends and some of my family is they never know the name of any streets. If I say the shop is in Castle Street or near B and Q they will ask where is that.
I wonder if it's because of sat nav. My son was taking me to my hospital appointment and I knew there wad a large carpark beside the ri et because we often passed it. Instead he headed down back streets as it was quicker and ended up on a cul de sac behind the hospital where there was no parking and a very steep stairway to enter the building.

Was and river. Fat fingers.

BlueBelle

*I don’t think the two things go together - they don't for me, anyway* Oldnproud
Looks like they do for some people ….taken from the nhs website

recognising emotions on people's faces ( that’s definitely not a problem for me )
recognising people's age and gender (again no problem)
recognising characters and following plots in TV programmes or films (yes often a problem I don’t recognise actors when they are in different roles)
recognising other things, such as cars or animals ( no idea what car is what,…. animals fine)
finding your way around (YES big time)

Yes, I accept that they go together for some people, but not for me.

Like you, I don't have a problem reading people's emotions, either from their face or other clues (even though I have a lot of autistic characteristics too).
No problem recognising their age and gender either
And I too have problems recognising characters and plots in films - though I don't really have a problem with long-running series / soap operas, where I have learned gradually who is who, a bit like I did with my fellow classmates back in school.
In fact of the things you list above, the only one I don't share with you is the problem finding my way around.

I once had a friend who would pretend to be on her mobile phone if she did not want to talk to someone. I got dumped a few years ago because I would no longer do her bidding but sadly she can't walk anymore so I doubt I will get the mobile phone treatment. What comes around goes around.

But it not that we don’t want to talk that’s a different thing altogether Goodafternoon it’s that we don’t always know who we are talking to!!!

Nearly twins oldenproud ’

People can fail to recognise you for several reasons such as poor distance vision/being busy and/or distracted. I would not take it to heart. People lead busy lives and may simply be absorbed in what they are doing.

In the days when I was still pretty mobile I often wandered around the city center in a world of my own. I would be absorbed in the goods on display in the stores and took little account of random people going about their business.

One day I must have inadvertantly "blamked" my NDN in Boots. She made a tremendous fuss about it, raising her voice and shouting "Good heavens Im your neighbour". I remember it now because she was making such an exhibition of herself.

I told her that she was just a random person who happened to live next door and that I never thought about her, so why should I recognise her when I was busy with important things?

Looking back I now realise she was already exhibiting the initial symptoms of dementia from which she now suffers. People often begin to lose their emotional and or social filter before they actually exhibit memory problems.

Interesting thread! Its good to hear that so many of you also dont recognise people sometimes for whatever reason.

To the poster who asked what I would do if a neighbour stopped me in the street and asked intrusive personal questions. I have as little to do with neighbours as possible as I dont have the headspace for them. I would probably put on my terse teacher voice and respond that "I dont discuss my finances with random people".

I suffered a RTA resulting in a fractured skull when I was a teenager, and that was the last time I could find my way anywhere after just going a few times, or recognising anyone. When we moved house it took me 2 weeks to find which bedroom I slept in! I've probably lost quite a few acquaintances who could have become friends by walking straight past them in the street. I don't tell many people as if I do they tend to treat me as if I'm cognitively challenged as well. I'm not TG and I did score 100% in a maths exam at college. It's just my visual memory that is poor so it takes me longer than normal to recognise people and places. Satnav has helped a lot with the latter
OP they might not recognise you and have a similar problem to me.

When I was much, much younger as well as my full-time job I did part-time bar work to supplement my income.
There were certainly times when my customers saw me outside of the pub where I worked and sometimes some of them didn't recognise me out of context.
I didn't (and don't) think it was rudeness.

Another thing I think is rude is when your friends friend is included in something and they talk exclusively to your friend and ignore you.
My friend often took me with her when visiting a lady who was an old friend. In a case like that I think it's polite to include the stranger in the chat and show some interest in who they are even if it's fake.