Rudeness from a stranger in public

I hate the reduction of the personal touch from an assistant and had got to know them over time:

but the growth of the automatic check outs does mean that those in a hurry out of need or choice can go there.

I never mind someone taking time. One day it could be me. The only time I got impatient (tho didnt show it) was a 15 min wait because the couple concerned had not got the right sort of card to be valid, but kept insisting it ought to be OK, and I'd unloaded a large shop, but somehow the whizz manager sorted it.

Possibly assuring them adequately they would keep the goods nice and safe so they could come back - or even arrange a delivery, which the big Sainsbugs could do.

Maggiemaybe

Oh, Esmay, what an awful experience for you. It sounds as though this poor girl has mental health issues. You did nothing wrong, and I hope you’ve been able to put this behind you.

Or she came from Iran and had endured terrible experiences there.

It was the third unpleasant event that I had this past week .
As I've been really ill, I've hardly gone out so it was my week for treats and catching up.
The screaming girl in my friend's cafe. Sad when we were having such a great time chatting .
The next day , having arranged lunch on the phone -a friend texted me when I was at the venue waiting for her to say that she wasn't coming .
She is seriously physically ill and in and out of hospital,but I haven't heard .
And then ,this totally crazy woman ,who chose to sit next to me in a near empty cafe .
I was sitting in the part where everyone wants to sit and she was possibly trying to intimidate me .

I haven't gone out today.

I'm scared !

Essmay can you ask your friend if she knows why the girl was screaming and does she go on certain days...then you can go back on a day she is not there.

Esmay - You are certainly never alone and should feel comfortable in a café where you actually know the proprietors. Maybe the young woman just wanted to get on with her lunch rather than chat. Your questions may have tipped a vulnerable person over the edge into meltdown. I don’t suppose she had a good day either and may now feel embarrassed to come in, especially if you are there. I love to chat and ask people about themselves but I try to always be aware of reactions and back off if I feel I am intruding.

HelterSkelter
I did ask my friend what was wrong with the young Asian girl .
She said that she's sweet and normally OK.
I frequent her cafe a lot and I'd never seen her before .
Most of her customers are young Mums who sit in groups together.
Some older women sit in pairs .
There's quite a few who are solitary -like me ,but we usually share tables and chat.
I misjudged the situation and her .
It's the first time ,I've experienced someone like her .
My cafe owning friend is frankly having a very tough time with a huge tent increase and it's hardly a priority for her .
It was just one of those weeks-culminating in being screamed at in another cafe by someone who is plainly neuro divergent.

Elrel
I'm very open and friendly.
I make a huge effort not to be like my mother ,who was extremely introverted and had a history of agoraphobia.
Prior to her last illness rendering her bed ridden I had to escort everywhere even to the end of her road.
After this week,
I'm less inclined to initiate conversations !
We have no idea how people really feel and I plainly misjudged the poor girl .