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Usedtobeblonde Mon 16-Mar-26 12:17:07

I know this has come up before but did any/many of you have the same feelings as I did that I wish I could remember my mother with affection and wishing she was still here.
It always comes back at this time of year and I remember having to search for cards that didn’t express sentiments of being the very best mother ever and how much
I appreciated everything she was and had done for me.
I was always well fed and clothed to the best of her ability as a widow but she was so cruel in her words and this continued this for the rest of her very long life.
I respected her and visited weekly and had her to stay for every holiday but it was out of duty, not affection.
It makes me very sad.

Warmglovesandsocks Thu 19-Mar-26 10:48:12

My Mother not once told me she loved me, there was not one hug! It was a totally different case with my Brother who couldn’t do anything wrong. I got the impression she thought less of girls as they didn’t bring in as much money as the boys did with wages.

pably15 Thu 19-Mar-26 11:29:27

it's so sad to read some of these posts, my mother was very kind and loving, she would have given us her last,she died 30 years ago,and I think about her every day.
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V3ra Thu 19-Mar-26 12:46:28

Those who had a good relationship with their mother are very lucky. I was an only child, but by mother was unsupportive and always hypercritical.

Same here. I left home as soon as I could and never went back.

It was a shock for me when I had my own children and mixed with other young mums, and realised that not every mummy was cross with their children all the time!
I had to give myself a stiff talking to and make a conscious effort not to let history repeat itself.

BridgetPark Thu 19-Mar-26 13:14:17

Thankyou Kate , lovely of you to respond to my post, you too sound very grounded and calm, you have got through, well done, my lovely

Sarahr Thu 19-Mar-26 20:42:22

I was lucky with having a good Mum. Yes, we argued but always forgot afterwards. Unfortunately, I have 3 nasty children. They were lovely children and I gave them as good a start to their lives as possible, but they have taken the ex and his family's traits. You can nurture, but it seems impossible to change nature.

sazz1 Fri 20-Mar-26 21:23:33

My mum was lovely and I was very upset when she died. My dad did many many bad things to lots of people including me and I'm sure he had cleptomania as he stole from everyone. But I was inconsolable when he died because it meant the relationship I'd always wanted with him could now never be iyswim.

Toetoe Fri 20-Mar-26 21:55:54

I realise while reading the posts how as older women we still carry the sadness about our childhoods and mothers . Even in older years the feelings are still raw . Just wanted to say a few words and not scroll by . So many sad stories . We are all mothers and grandmother's and full of so much love