Stop trying to change things you can't. Peace of Mind

Recovered alcoholic , no wine

Great idea, but sometimes hard to be cheerful. We are lucky living on a small island with no new cases.

On the whole I'm happy with my lot, plenty of fresh air and sunshine. Just adopted a 7 year old cat, couldn't meet her because of lockdown, she was listed as shy and nervous
, but has been a total loving friendly cat. Cheering us up no end. In spite of today being wet and windy!

I think there has been more positivity of late in the forums than there has been for ages.
We must be really moany, ordinarily.

Why two threads, Notright?

Whilst I miss the grandchildren we do keep in contact a lot with the older ones and it's great fun to catch up on their day. I've enjoyed sitting out and reading in the sunshine and have joined a WhatsApp group in our road so we can contact each other as and when. I've also become involved once again voluntary work - online - which is keeping my brain active.

The downsides have been my HAIR which is driving me nuts and the stiffness from lack of Pilates even though I exercise at home. And I'm sick of cooking - not my favourite occupation.

It did take me a while to get used to the lockdown but I do feel more relaxed now than I did initially in spite of the fact we had to call in a plumber for a flooded loo! It's a mindset really, isn't it? We can't change anything so let's go with the flow and explore new avenues.

We can't change things so enjoy what you can do please
Welcome Notright That's a nice bright start!
You've been watching too many"Good Morning XXX Day" threads!
Try the "Good Evening XXX Day" for a change and see the difference. All contributors have ridden themselves of early morning blues!
"Find out what you can't do well, then don't do it!"
"If don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude!"
I've always liked those sayings! So profound!
Stay with it!
Good health
OoRoo

You are wrong Rufus the Good Morning thread is anything but negative. Obviously some people have problems and air them but that is not the rule.

And yes Notright why two threads? Even your name is negative!

Don't tell me how to feel Notright if I want to be miserable and moany I will.

Sorry posted too soon. I really don't need to be patronised thank you.

Also nobody feels happy all the time, if they say they do they are lying. Being happy, being angry, being sad, being scared are all normal human emotions, there is nothing wrong with those emotions.

I'm suspicious of relentlessly cheerful people.

I am happy I have to sleep on a sofa because I can’t physically
change my bed linen, happy because i don’t have a husband or
partner, happy because there are no children living next door
or even 10 doors away, happy because the physiotherapist can’t visit me with aids for my arthritis, happy because my carpets haven’t been vacuumed for 12 weeks.

That’s awful for you Anniebach and annoying to have people telling you to count your blessings be happy blah blah. Soda pop with you all the way, no need to be patronised!
I also disagree entirely with OP saying it’s all negative on GN I think there is a wide range of threads, posts , opinions and personalities.

sodapop I too found notright s post a bit condescending You really can’t tell people how to feel or act, only tell yourself, your post is the equivalent of telling an unhappy person to buck themselves up I m sure we all look at the world though a true myriad of feelings
There have been many many positive and sometimes funny posts and threads on here so may I politely suggest you pick out the positive post to read and keep away from any sad ones
Not everyone can feel like Pollyanna all the time

Thank you, yes.

Having thought how brilliant that the Queen is riding a horse at that wonderful age, and how lovely life is and then seeing it on another thread (and then seeing the negative comment about “class” - just felt the joy and lifeblood seeping out of me)

Currently listening to blackbirds, robins, swallows and mistle thrushes all singing so joyfully on my roof and I have to keep going out just to gaze in wonder at them all.

Bossy or what? Cheer up chaps. Hands to the deck. We’re all in this together. The f**k we are - that’s Boris-talk.

OP moaning about people moaning.

Watching tv all day would bring on depression

There's a lot to be said for having a good moan.

I live with someone who moans about everything!!! When i say stop it, he says i am not moaning just saying. I have told him to change the tone of his voice then as it sounds like moaning to me. Some people just have that about them. No matter what they say it comes out wrong, moreso
if everything they say has a negative content!!!

That's just as annoying as someone who wants to wax lyrical about birdsong and nature, as if nobody else ever noticed.

I think a lot of us moan about the weather - it's too hot/wet/cold/windy - it's a British thing, I think. I'm fed up of hearing some women telling me how they're desperate to have their hair/nails done.

I'm fortunate to not have any ailments, I'm lucky to have a close family and no real problems, I know, but there are enough miserable things going on in the world without moaning about trivial things.

Oh how I agree "Pinkcakes*. Hair and nails. As an alopecia sufferer who can't get my hair system maintained in lockdown, oh to have some hair to moan about.

Kate1949 Bless you, I'm sorry to hear that. Mine is a state - but so what?