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"Christmas is just for the kids really"

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Twostep Thu 14-Dec-17 09:08:04

I've long kept my mouth shut about this, but I can't anymore! If one more of my friends tells me this, I'll blow grin Only kidding, but it does seem so sad that adults feel, at some point, that their turn for enjoyment is over and it must all be for the children from then on.

I always have and always will enjoy Christmas very much. I look forward to it all December every year - it's fun and a time when I really appreciate my family, both those still with us and those departed.

I find itall a bit joyless to turn your back on any kind of merriment once you reach a certain age...

rockgran Thu 14-Dec-17 14:11:57

I sometimes think we would appreciate Christmas more if it just came around every four years like the Olympic games!

MissAdventure Thu 14-Dec-17 14:14:57

Oh now that's a great idea. Hope we wouldn't end up making four times the fuss though!

Anniebach Thu 14-Dec-17 14:37:31

We do hype ourselves up , I remember a woman saying- I am nearly ready, cards posted, most shopping done , need to clean the windows and change the bed linen, no she wasn't having guests .

EmilyHarburn Thu 14-Dec-17 15:09:27

enjoy Christmas as a time to get in touch with friends and family by sending cards or phoning. It lovely to catch up with everyone before the New Year comes in. Also to drink a toast to the memory of everyone who has died.

M0nica Thu 14-Dec-17 15:26:07

I love Christmas, always have and always will and I have been fortunate that I have passed this enjoyment down to my children and their children. Christmas is what you choose to make it. If you let all the commercialisation 'get' to you, that is your choice.

Personally, I just ignore it. We had one year when money was tight and Christmas presents came from a charity shop combined with home made ingenuity. Our DC remember it as one of the best Christmases of their childhood. They were unaware of our financial problems and untroubled and incurious that their presents from us were not new. They got things they really wanted and that was all that mattered.

Christmas is what you make it, not what anybody else, or nearly everybody else make it..

lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 14-Dec-17 16:09:54

I think that Christmas is for families, not just children. I'm a childless widow and will spend the big day at my sister's (her DH and 2 lads still at home, cat and dog). At some point eldest son will come round with *daughter, stepson and wife - if she isn't working.
As usual I'll abuse my digestive system and if I'm too indulgent I'll burp (or worse) and be the embarrassing auntie. wine We'll enjoy ourselves.
*no longer believes in Santa.

Lilyflower Thu 14-Dec-17 16:11:17

Martin Lewis of the Martin’s Moneyfacts website did a poll recently where participants were asked whether, if they could, they would push a button to cancel Christmas. It was divided between men and women and into age groups. The only two groups where keeping Christmas was more popular than cancelling it were those of men and women who had younger children.

I, of course, would not ban Christmas as I love it:- the lights, the decorations and tree, the food and drinks, buying and wrapping presents, seeing friends and family - these are all wonderful.

January now. I’d Cancel that.

whitewave Thu 14-Dec-17 16:53:40

I think Christmas can be enjoyed at different levels.

When you reach your mature years, I love it for a time of slowing down for a few days, enjoying a good meal or two. Enjoying a good book. And if you are very lucky something worth watching on the television. Also the sun is heading back!!
I am not a Christian, but I can appreciate the timeless tradition of the crib and carols for those very few (apparently according to Justin welby) Christians left in this country.

JanaNana Thu 14-Dec-17 17:20:44

I think Christmas is for everyone really. However how you choose to celebrate it or not depends. We all remember our own childhood Christmases and I think that influences how we still view it to a certain extent. As a child I remember things being full of special secrets, people actually making little presents and hiding them, lots of thought went into all presents whether home made or bought .....our expectations then were certainly nothing like they are now and for me Christmas and birthdays were about the only time you received any presents so the excitement really built up. We did not always get what we hoped for but never the less enjoyed ourselves. I think the amount of presents that are given and expected these days is far too much, and some children are completely overwhelmed by it all. Whether you celebrate it as Christmas or Yuletide could be enjoyed much more if things were simplified and less stressful, and I think it would be a step in the right direction to all the frantic spend, spend, spend, attitude that has taken over.

harrysgran Thu 14-Dec-17 17:30:32

I enjoyed Christmas when my children were younger but I enjoy it in a different much more relaxed and less stressful way now I feel I have the time to do lots more Christmas things in the run up Carol services Christmas baking things I found i had to fit in whilst dashing about shopping and lots of other chores I love to see my grandchildren on the day but it's lovely to see them go at the end of the day when I put my feet up with a glass of wine and watch Christmas tv undisturbed

Billybob4491 Thu 14-Dec-17 18:23:11

I am a Christian and a churchgoer so Christmas for me has a very special meaning, as for the commercial aspect I find it all totally unnecessary, Christmas is not really about presents, eating, drinking, parties, overspending, etc., it is about celebrating the birth of our Lord.

Saggi Thu 14-Dec-17 18:56:16

Christmas is for everybody who’s NOT a misery.!!

Jalima1108 Thu 14-Dec-17 20:13:36

January now. I’d Cancel that.
I'd quite like to hibernate in January and/or February - I mean properly hibernate, sleep and use up my stored fat.
wink

Overthehills Thu 14-Dec-17 23:21:53

Yes, yes, yes Jalima1108!
But first of all I’m looking forward to Christmas, in spite of not having a “John Lewis” family!
I wish all of you happiness at Christmas, however you spend it.

SillyNanny321 Thu 14-Dec-17 23:46:15

Hi Grannyactivist, a community lunch sounds like a really lovely idea. If there was something like that here would be a nice thing to do. Sorry if i sounded grumpy, not usually just hadnt been out for a week after some problems then the snow & ice making walking a bit dodgy!

BlueBelle Fri 15-Dec-17 06:36:31

I do think Christmas is for kids, it holds nothing much for me since commercialisation overtook the simple enjoyment of a chance to make and do things together, be it cooking, making decorations/ cards, and keeping everything secret the build up used to be great but now it’s traumatic with the high priced items in shops all starting to vie for attention in August and over priced adverts starting in November so by December it’s so overdone that I just look forward to January
Billybob I spoke to a very religious lady yesterday and asked her if she and her family were looking forward to Christmas I was very surprised when she answered that they didn’t celebrate at all as Dec 25th is not the day Jesus was supposedly born I must admit I d never thought about that ?

Billybob4491 Fri 15-Dec-17 07:01:18

Bluebelle, I think the date of Jesus's birth was nearer to September rather than December, according to some Theologians. We acknowledge but do not celebrate 25th Dec, but I do have grandchildren who love Christmas naturally, and I have to say I do put out a mince pie and glass of milk for Santa, so am not entirely miserable Saggi!

M0nica Fri 15-Dec-17 08:15:45

Most religions are syncretic. That is they promulgate their essential truths by expressing them through forms and ceremonies familiar to their potential followers.

The Roman emperor, Constantine the Great decreed that Jesus' birthday should be celebrated on 25 December because it was very close to the midwinter solstice celebrations that are almost worldwide and these celebrations then became the festivities for celebrating the birth of Jesus.

Constantine would not have known the exact date of Jesus' birth, but he was brought up in the near east and at Petra, in Jordan and possibly elsewhere in the area, there was a religious festival on 25 December to celebrate the birth of a child. Presumably Constantine knew of this and it gave him the idea for Christianising the winter solstice celebrations.

It is not much different from the Queen having an official birthday.

123kitty Fri 15-Dec-17 10:37:44

I love Christmas- with the exception of pantomime, even as a child I couldn't stand the annual visit. As an adult the joy of not having to go- it's behind me- oh yes it is!