Christmas holidays

calendargirl

Oh goodness, how I agree!!

I do t ski and have no interest in trying and I don't like the cold but I would go to make some memories with children and grandchildren anbdxmas in a ski resort does sound lovely, But if you really don't want to go just say so.. I am sure your younger daughter will be fine.

Is it a large resort - will there be Christmas markets if you are going just before Christmas?

I vowed not to use the C word until November and that's three times so far!

As a non-skier, I have spent several Christmases in ski resorts in Austria and Switzerland (because DH and sons love skiing and, due to dodgy knees, I can't).
It really can be a lovely holiday. Although we always stayed in hotels, not chalets, so I wasn't lumbered with any cooking or cleaning.
There are usually activities for non-skiers - spas, swimming, yoga, walks etc. You will probably find that there is a train to Saltzburg, which is a wonderful city to visit, especially in the Christmas season (Austrian trains are fast, comfortable and cheap).
The thing I loved most is that Christmas in Austria is so simple and traditional - none of the rushing around and commercial tat we have here.
I hope you give it some serious consideration, could be a once in a lifetime experience!

Your decision in the end but I think I'd go. You'll be with your family and, if you get on with each other, I think you could have a wonderful time with them.

I think ski resorts cater for non-skiers so there will be something to do.

I'm a cynic and think they want a babysitter.
And I wouldn't want to go somewhere cold and snowy either

If you don't want to go there must be a tactful way of saying no. Could you stay at home with the younger daughter and enjoy Christmas together?

I thought about the babysitting.
I ski and to be honest if you don’t ski it can be boring waiting around. A week is a long time.

I would go. There will be loads to do. I think it sounds wonderful.

I would be thankful that they had asked me to go. Think of all the estranged families who would give anything to be asked to join them. It shows they love you. You don’t have to join in the skiing. Take some good books, get wrapped up and go for a lovely walk. Sit and have a coffee in a cafe and people watch and most of all make some lovely memories with your family. I hope you go and I hope you have a lovely time. X

If you don’t go, will you be alone at Christmas? That might be a consideration? I think it would be a great family holiday, and you won’t be alone because your younger daughter isn’t skiing. As for the babysitting....is that a problem? We’re going away with my daughter and family next week, and although it hasn’t been said, I know there will be an element of babysitting involved.....I’ll enjoy that !

amt100 - could you and your younger daughter opt out and do something you both enjoy together?

Maggiemaybe that really made me laugh!
Please go...I really think you’d regret not going if you didn’t. Special family time Plus I want to read your account of it when you return!

Could you stay at home with the younger daughter and enjoy Christmas together?
I think younger daughter has herself a daughter of 7 who wants to learn to ski, so she will want to spend Christmas with her DH and DD.

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I think it will be lively - keep your DD company -it will be gorgeous and make beautiful memories.

I thought the same thing Charleygirl.
Free babysitter and cook!

Hope I'm wrong, don't want to sound mean.

As long as that's not the case I'd go and have a lovely time.

BTW don't mind doing my share of cooking if it's that sort of holiday, just make sure everybody else takes a turn.

From lots of posts I read on here you are fortunate that both your daughters and families want you to go on holiday with them. I think you should go rather than upset them as although you may be happy to sit on your own over Christmas they won't be happy. It may be more fun than you think. You will have lots of time with the families and especially your younger daughter who is probably planning all the lovely things you and she can do together. Don't be a party pooper. There's loads to do, the decorations will be superb and you will be waited on hand and foot. It will be magical if you let it. You may never want to stay home at Christmas again. Do give it a go.

She should not have to thankful why should she be thankful anyway that aside
OP I think you should let them know how you feel .
If you dont want to go dont.

Maggiemaybe that really made me laugh!
Duvetdiva, we’re looking after two of the grandsons this weekend and part of their packed schedule is a roller skating party. Apparently we’re expected to don the skates and take to the rink with them..... Given my track record this could be interesting.

I'd be asking what they think you will be doing to entertain yourself when adults are out with children. Also what DD who can't ski will be doing. Hopefully there will be Acknowledgment you will be on your own a lot and perhaps an admission you will be a handy childminder when they are off out. This would give you an opportunity to state your case.

You could well end doing the child minding and catering. I would go with our gut feeling .

I would go to spend precious time with family, it seems there is no pressure for you to ski or do any other activities, also its only a few days out of the year and then you can please yourself.

I think you have answered your own question and have already decided you do not want to go. I can honestly say it has never appealed to me- I hate snow, ice and being cold myself. Nothing would persuade me to join in and I think you should stick to your guns and not be swayed if you would be miserable there. I also think you would be the babysitter of grandchildren for the family to go off &enjoy the apres ski.

Providing that I was fit enough, I would probably go. I wouldn't mind doing some catering and childminding, which is what most of us do at times anyway. I would insist on paying my share of the trip, and that way you could more comfortably explain that it was your holiday too, if their domestic expectations were to become too onerous. Do some research, and let them know in advance that you have some plans of your own. DD can join you in your planning.