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sister's gift

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sandye Thu 24-Oct-19 18:54:18

What can I get my sister and her husband? any ideas? I normally spend 20-30 pounds each. They have everything and money enough to buy whatever, I have stuck with PJ's in the past but would like something different. Nether drive so nothing for a car. I'm just at a loss, they don't drink ether.

M0nica Thu 24-Oct-19 18:59:17

When my sister and Dh got like that we just agreed not to give presents to each other anymore.

For the rest of the family (DH, DD and DS & family). I expect them to send me lists of things they would like to receive for all of us to choose from or not if any of us have a better idea.

BradfordLass72 Thu 24-Oct-19 19:08:58

Magazine subscription? Gift vouchers for nearby shops?

Illustrated books? What we used to call coffee table books about something they are interested in: gardening, scenic Britain, castles, roses, cats...the list is endless as, in my opinion, is the enjoyment of looking at beautiful photographs of something you love.

Better than pyjamas anyway grin

GrannyGravy13 Thu 24-Oct-19 19:14:28

Hotel Chocolate gift box

Hetty58 Thu 24-Oct-19 19:22:23

Get them on Elfster online gift idea exchange. At least they can indicate what they'd like. The adults in our family only do a £20 gift for one other (Secret Santa) these days as our family has grown very large! We have a tradition of taking luxury food or drink to any gathering, too.

MamaCaz Thu 24-Oct-19 19:45:39

If people have everything they want and need, plus no shortage of money, I really dont see why they would either want or expect gifts, or why anyone with less money then them would feel compelled to buy for them. It seems almost immoral to me!

MissAdventure Thu 24-Oct-19 19:50:11

The only thing you can buy people who have everything is nothing.

Pantglas2 Thu 24-Oct-19 19:50:58

We’re not rolling in it but have said for a long time ‘send us a card and spend it on your children/grandchildren’ or donate it to a good cause/food bank.

Witzend Thu 24-Oct-19 19:54:13

Just a suggestion - a dd once gave me a 3 month sub to Bloom and Wild - flowers once a month. They come beautifully packed in a box that will go through the letterbox.

MissAdventure Thu 24-Oct-19 19:56:17

Something like this, perhaps?

Ginny42 Thu 24-Oct-19 20:07:11

I'm buying a pig for my sister. Not actually for her you understand. She won't have a pig sty in the garden. A family somewhere will get a pig in her name and she'll be happy with that.

In the past I've bought goats and school equipment in the names of family members. The gift which has brought the most pleasure has to be the puppy for the blind I sponsored for my DGS. He became very attached her over the past two years, as she matured and he followed her progress with 'pupdates'. It's now matched to a person, so this year I will sponsor another one.

Namsnanny Thu 24-Oct-19 20:40:44

Something you've made?
A subscription?
Sponsor a child?
Donation to a charity on their behalf?
Outing or concert together?

Best idea is to agree on no gift, really. smile

Jimjam1 Thu 24-Oct-19 21:02:19

Meal voucher for nearby restaurant. They could pay for their own taxi.

Witzend Thu 24-Oct-19 21:09:45

Or how about some smoked salmon/smoked trout etc., sent by post? I've sent such things from the Inverawe website before and they always seem to go down well.

Calendargirl Thu 24-Oct-19 21:39:19

DS and I agreed when the children were small not to give each other gifts anymore. We stopped giving the children when they reached 18.
It all just gets tit for tat, and pretty pointless.

Newquay Thu 24-Oct-19 22:14:40

I agree with OP-why buy gifts for folks who have everything?
Can’t do a link but watch Martin Lewis Christmas Special last year-it was quite moving-about not buying “stuff” for the sake of buying. . .

phoenix Thu 24-Oct-19 22:30:55

Agree about going present free!

Years ago when with ex dh I had to suffer opening tat presents from his sister's that we neither wanted or needed, also had to try to find presents for them.

Bit the bullet one year, and suggested that we only buy for the children.

Much easier after that!I

sandye do you think that they might be having the same dilemma regarding a gift for you? Just broach it! They might be quite relieved!

TBH, really don't understand this buying presents for adults, Mr P & I do buy for each other, but only because it's just us!

(Estranged from my ds & gc)

sandye Thu 31-Oct-19 14:15:17

I want to buy a gift as I enjoy giving gifts, I think it will be his/hers dressing gowns

NanKate Thu 31-Oct-19 14:35:27

I love your idea Ginny of a pig. 🐷

Being an animal lover my DH bought me for our anniversary once a brick with my name printed on it at Monkey World in Dorset it is set in a pathway that thousands of visitors walk over and it will be there when I am long gone.

I wonder if an arboretum or other visitor attraction offers anything similar.

Once a year I sponsor a young person who has been living on the streets. The YMCA help them re-establish themselves.
I agree with others someone who has everything doesn’t need a gift.

NanKate Thu 31-Oct-19 14:39:13

Sorry I have just seen your comment Sandye. Maybe my suggestions may be taken up by others.

If there is not being too rude, if they don’t drink or drive, what do they do for entertainment? If you don’t want to answer my question just ignore me.

Calendargirl Thu 31-Oct-19 14:45:25


Perhaps where they live they can walk or use taxis or buses to go out? And lots of people don’t drink, so I can’t see either of those things is a no-no for entertainment really.

NanKate Thu 31-Oct-19 14:48:32

I agree Calendargirl it was rather an unfortunate question to pose. My apologies.

Liz46 Thu 31-Oct-19 14:51:38

Our local, family run nursery make up seasonal pots of plants for about £20. I bought one for my aunt and she loved it.

Gran2028 Thu 31-Oct-19 15:58:06

Afternoon tea for two somewhere nice near them??
They can choose the date if you get a voucher.

SalsaQueen Thu 31-Oct-19 16:07:05

How about afternoon tea somewhere? Look on Groupon or Wowcher. Or a nice food hamper? For my sister-in-laws birthday, I got a fruit hamper, which has got the fruits cut into shapes of flowers. The place was called Edible Blossoms, and they are nationwide.