52bright, I don't see any rudeness in that man's need for his own food. he has a condition that necessitates it.
I can see that getting other food ready for large numbers at the same time can be tricky. perhaps next time he could bring his own microwave and set it up in another room, so as to heat his food without bothering you, getting in your way in the kitchen. it's good that he can join his family at the gathering at your house.
it sounds good to have such a wide age range together; that will particularly help the children to grow up aware of others and the reality of ageing.
kircubbin 2000, and GrannySomerset, what it is to have an ungrateful child, sharper than ta serpent's tooth, as the bard says.
I have seen this close up recently. someone I have been helping, whose children do little, are callous, controlling, too busy, not interested enough to get involved, or even learn the real situation; and not one word of thanks to me nor a card at xmas to acknowledge my unpaid input, support, medical liaison etc.
am feeling quite depressed by the whole situation. would be easier if she had no one. one of them said to her, how do you know you can trust welbeck. I have been to 100+ medical appts since 2013, which now often take most of day. was every day at her side when in-patient 10 weeks, and overnight, uncomfortably, twice when things were dicey. I am struggling to continue. emotionally more than physically. sorry. off topic............---666284836o4hrwefnwlejfcn ldjncaeuvhqldnaec