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No help, no gift so we are skiing

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SecondhandRose Tue 27-Dec-22 13:44:51

Christmas Day neither adult child offered a finger to help with any aspect of the day. They are both well into their twenties. DH and I didnt bother asking for help as we knew we would be met with resistance. DC didn’t even move their plates or cracker mess off the table. DS gave us each a gift but DD gave us absolutely nothing, I am not looking for expensive gifts, just some flowers or chocs would have been lovely. Both DC live at home and dont pay rent as they are part time students and both have paid jobs too.

DH and I had been discussing giving the DC cash gifts at Christmas amounting to £600 each. Instead we gave them £100 each and we’ll put the £1000 towards a holiday.

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Franski Tue 12-Aug-25 19:17:00

Enjoy your Christmas! Sounds like you are making the best of a tricky situation. X

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MiniMoon Tue 12-Aug-25 19:54:23

I hope they enjoyed skiing. This OP was made in 2022.

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Oldbat1 Tue 12-Aug-25 20:08:26

Old post!

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Deedaa Tue 12-Aug-25 20:20:28

I'll just say that my 12 year old grandson who has ASD and ADHD used to walk away from the table leaving eerything behind him. One day I asked him if he could just take his plate and glass into the kitchen for me. He did it quite happily and ever since then has always cleared up after himself. He's also very good at presents.

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Witzend Thu 28-Aug-25 17:06:50

aggie

My Mum took rent from me , her idea ! But I was happy to think I was helping her out
I earned under £35. I had to give her £10 , it was good training for me
I only found out years later that she had saved it and used it to pay for my wedding

My first holiday job (supermarket checkout) paid £8.50 a week, out of which I had to give my mother £3.

Dh earned over £20 a week on building sites during student holidays, and wasn’t expected to give his parents anything. And they were very far from well off - if anything, more skint than mine.

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Esmay Thu 28-Aug-25 17:54:03

I have really struggled to care for my father and now he's passed with deteriorating health for the last two years without help from my adult children .
I send them presents for Easter ,birthdays and Christmas .
They aren't usually acknowledged .
I know through a family member that they've had nice holidays .
I never thought that they could be like this .
It breaks my heart .
I'm hoping to settle some finances this year and I plan some trips alone .

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Esmay Thu 28-Aug-25 18:20:49

Sorry didn't see that it's an old post .
Why do they pop up ?!

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Dhabispell Fri 12-Sept-25 17:08:24

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Fairislecable Fri 12-Sept-25 17:17:10

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