Yes, I suppose it is, really.
I know though, who eats what and how greedy they are, so there's no need to give them a choice.
Anyway, I've been on my own for 6 out of the last 7 years.
, so it's not really relevant to me. 
NotSpaghetti
My mother-in-law doesn't do much shopping these days. She will get something if she knows exactly what, and where from, but mostly it's cash into bank accounts.
The men in the family are all getting a bottle of wine for Christmas this year. I know this as I ordered 9 bottles with her last week!
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Primrose53 I don't think the two vomiting emojis was very kind. Your son-in-law's mother was presumably just telling you that she needed small portions. People need reminding sometimes even when they know.
I say this as my mother had cancer and had half of her stomach removed. It gave her another six (or so) good years of fulfilled life - but she was regularly faced with "small" portions that were actually way too big. Often this was with well meaning friends or even with me or my dad.
At home she would say "just take half of that off please" but you don't always want to upset a non-family host, especially at special occasions such as Christmas when they have generously included you in their family celebrations.
Unfortunately too much food on my mum's plate sadly made her feel sick. I'm sorry you felt sick thinking about a "butchered stomach" and it so upset your meal. At least it's not a regular occurance.
I'm saying this not to be rude but just to explain the situation of someone who has lost, through surgery, the ability to even face quite small portions. Some days my mother ate like a bird. She was wary of managing multiple courses too.
Sorry if that upset you. I have had about 25 years of giving smaller portions to my own Mum who had bowel cancer twice and was left with just enough intestine to survive. She could only eat small amounts too due to major surgery but would never announce this at the table.
For those getting their knickers in a twist about me serving up food on the plates, I do for those who ask me to but rest assured I have serving dishes on the dining table and the rest of us serve ourselves from these. I find that a lot of older people prefer me to do it rather than having to reach over.
Comes to something when one is made to feel you have to prove yourself but here is a selection of my serving dishes which we use most days. Ancient Royal Worcester, Emma Bridgewater and a rare ceramic Le Creuset. I also have open dishes. 😉
Allira
And cauliflower cheese doesn't go cold for about two days 😂
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