Seriously unhappy at Santa failure

But some men are just hopeless at gift shopping, aren't they.
My husband was. So he used to give me some money in January every year so that I could go to the sales. I thought this was a good compromise.

Dempie55 and ExDancer
I actually had a sleeve board on my "what I would like one day" list.
I never liked ironing much but I DO love to have a decent solid sleeve board and the one my grandfather made became wobbly.
My youngest son bought me the one that matches my amazing ironing board a couple of years ago for my birthday



It is this one!

Well if you don’t ask you don’t get. We always wanted to go away to exotic places over Christmas/New Year time. And we did. Those wonderful long trips were our presents.

Is your relationship okay apart from not buying you a gift ?
It struck a chord with me as a similar thing happened to me years ago .
I felt acutely embarrassed and my mother in law noticed .
People made comments .
The gift had been left at home .
Maybe you need to talk to your husband and tell him that you'd appreciate a gift -any gift from him !
Having said that - I recall my mother receiving a bright green jumper and telling my father that she wasn't a parrot !

I'd rather stop making excuses for men in the belief that gift-buying / giving is not their area of expertise. It may not be but any man with an ounce of common sense would fall back on the staples of chocolates or flowers at Christmas.

It's not the gift - it's the fact that Quizzer's DH couldn't be bothered...

I don't believe men are lazy. Mine is not.

I believe men are capable to buy pressies, invite their family round, keep contact with their family, hoover, push prams, cook.

I don't understand why anyone would indulge another grown human not keeping their own diary, accomplishing their own invitations (their family to holiday meals) - living, doing part of the work of living.

Men have brains, hands to write and type - no excuses.

We had a neighbour many years ago who asked her hustand what he would like for tea. He replied "Just 2 or 3 beans on toast." She gave him the benefit of the doubt and he got 3!

I find it difficult to give ideas when asked about presents, though I did think of a couple of things this year and was given them by DS and DD, but generally I don't need or want more stuff! I have said in the past that there was nothing in particular but was never actually given nothing. I'd be hurt too, so from me

Jaxjacky

Summerlove I disagree with your statement that all men are lazy.
Madeleine I’ve happily done and still do, all of those things and more for friends and family, planned or impromptu without an unnecessary ‘voucher’ system.
As I’ve said, the OP said she wanted nothing, now she’s complaining.
I do sometimes get fed up with men being maligned for no good reason.

I didn’t say all men are lazy.

But those that leave all the emotional work and gift buying certainly are.

People excuse it as in the quote I posted as ^ “Men. Are. Hopeless.”^

Good men are neither lazy or hopeless. Men that are? They are enabled by society and the people in their lives to act that way.

Your DH sounds like my husband was until I explained how bad I feel not getting something to unwrap, be it on my Birthday or Christmas. I said it doesn't have to be expensive, just something to open, ( as long as it isn't a loo brush - on asking his (now ex) wife what she wanted, she said a toilet brush. He took his daughter shopping and asked her what mum would like. "She said she wants a toilet brush" daughter tells him.... )
This Christmas I was given a large present to open. He gave me a tuner to go with my hi-fi system. For my Birthday he presented me with a lovely bird table he had made especially for me. I'm so glad I had that talk with him.