husbands working from home

Grandad1943

Thank you for ‘mansplaining’ that for us selfish whinging females!

I think this is a great thread for venting and humour, and it is helpfully titled “Husbands working from home” so easily dodged by those for whom reading about other people’s husbands brings home their own sad loss.
I do dislike the prevalence on all forums of this nature to invalidate the experience of one poster because another poster “has it worse”.
My second daughter is very severely physically and intellectually disabled and dependant on others for all care. It doesn’t mean I can’t empathise with the fears and depression of another mother who’s found out the baby she is expecting has a cleft palate, or when people moan about their teenagers doing things my daughter never will.
Of course by the same logic I can never complain about some of the issues I face caring for my daughter because some people have lost children; and they mustn’t complain because at least they had children and know what it is to love them because other people have struggled with infertility ....... and so it goes on.

Please remember there is no obligation to read a thread that annoys or upsets.

For my part, I rub along fine with my husband stuck in the house, but if I’d had to isolate with my late, much loved mother, I’d definitely have been knitting my own noose.

My husband used to worry for England! He has Vascular Dementia and Parkinson’s now and I know which I would prefer!!

trisher, in regard to your post @12:59 to day, if there are women living as single in this thread, how can they be criticising their husbands or partners in working from home. ???

MagicWand Quote[ Grandad1943, Thank you for ‘mansplaining’ that for us selfish whinging females!] End Quote.

No problem whatsoever, MagicWand

Classic bifurcation fallacy mindset from Grandad1943. He’s really not helping to undermine the original post ?

@ Loulelady excellent post.
@ Grandad1943 are you for real? If so, patronising doesn’t even come near it.

I work with my DH 5 days a week for 8 hours a day. I love being with him all day and if he decides to work from home, I do it too or I would miss him!! We are a great team and would be lost without each other. Enough lovey dovey stuff now!!

CleoPanda in regard to your post @13:20 today, it is the small minded self centered women on this thread who are criticising those trying to maintain an income into their homes, maintain their longterm employment, support their employers who are trying to keep going and in that support this country are the ones you should be criticising, not someone who is pointing out their selfish errors.

I also have a cleaner who can't come now so apart from general tidying I will 'DO' one room every day. ĺ have lung cancer so it is as much as I can manage.
Hugs to everyone. Every cloud has a silver lining, so keep smiling.

Grandad1943 just goes to show that you never actually read any posts but just pontificate! Try 2 posts before yours! Single women can comment you know, having a man around isn't an essential.

Grandad you must appreciate that on GN men are definitely in the minority, what their ratio to female posters one can only guess at, but I wouldn't mine betting it's pretty low. I have absolutely no complaints about my husband he's a damn good man, an absolute gem and I consider myself lucky, but the human race encompasses all sorts and as you rightly point out there will of course be the male counterparts of those women who have a moan, who also find their other halves equally exasperating. Lets face it members come on different threads to vent, it's not always against their other half, but other members of the family, children, parents, in laws, there's one at the moment where the poster is complaining about her granddaughter. I don't think you should take every negative remark pertaining to an individaul as a personal snipe against the male population per se. You have at times pointed out that misandry is evident and gets overlooked, I wouldn't entirely disagree, I remember watching "Loose Women" once or twice in the dim and distant past and thinking that, often wincing at the crassness and negative generalisations with a "good God if a man said that he'd never hear the last of it" However, none of us can know the dynamics of other people's relationships, I remember my own late parents aging, my mother endlessly patient as my father's health failed, he always an irascible person, becoming more so with age. In some relationships, there is a partner who has more to put up with, if we are fortunate our relationship with our other half is fairly evenly balanced so we don't feel stressed to have this enforced togetherness thrust upon us, but it's not going to be so for everyone. I have a certain sympathy for those people.

Most of all I sympathise with all the GNs who have lost their other half and wish they were still with here them at such a difficult time

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My husband died two weeks ago. Being alone in the present circumstances is incredibly hard.

However I know that if he was still with me I would be insane with worry, because having read how the virus works I don't think there is any way he could have survived.

It was clear to me when I clicked on the thread what it was about and I would have come out if it was going to upset me.

TerriBull in regard to your post @14:43 today, we have often disagreed an even clashed on this forum. However, on this occasion there is very much I can agree with in your well constructed and thought through post. Therefore many thanks.

That stated, please do not get carried away we will without doubt clash again on this forum in the future, for life would not be the same fo either of us if that did not happen. ?

Grandad thank you! and with regards to your second paragraph, yes I'm sure we will

The Bodach and I had many ongoing sources of minor irritation, mostly heating, clearing up, and food related, and I imagine if he had been himself the present situation would have led to many a huff!
I have wondered how I would have coped with him now, as I’m sure his dementia would have increased his anxiety and confusion, while preventing him from really appreciating what was happening, so I have mixed emotions, as I miss him terribly, but know he would have been very distressed.

Librarylady so very sorry for your loss sending you warm wishes ? and also to all those others who are facing this difficult time alone- I hope that you can find some positive messages which can give a little help and support

My husband has just made 6 cornbeef hash for the freezer, pickled half a dozen eggs, made a loaf in the bread maker, boiled and mashed carrots and turnips to freeze and then made me a cup of tea.

Yes, allow Gransnetters to vent, it’s therapeutic. My husband & I don’t live together after he had an affair I was unable to forgive. However, he has moved in with me to look after me after my knee replacement op. He is going slightly gaga, lacks common sense but is doing his best. He would not offer verbal sympathy for the awful pain I’m in but never has talked about feelings. I feel that under the present crazy circumstances he is being very unselfish and think I may revise my bitter attitude towards him: so something good may come out of this crisis.

I’ve laughter out loud at the first comments, not at the other ladies who are missing loved ones. I’m 76 and I love living alone,I feel the cold and I can use the healing as I like. I go for a walk every day and am happy after an hour to come home, do all the things I love, Italian study, yoga, painting, then cook a nice meal,. This will pass, we will come through it. By the way, my ex husband is stuck on a cruise ship down South America way with his present Mrs C. I know when I’m well off.

Loulelady excellent post, well said. A race to be declared the one who's had it worst is unhelpful and just attempts to punish others for having had the temerity to express a moan, often light heartedly.

LaRia

Hazel it's about 18C here today, lovely and sunny. Warmer weather to come.
And send him out with a shopping list if he keeps eating you out of house and home. He might find trouble buying anything much.

Grandad43 re your earlier comment, I regularly send these threads to my husband, he enjoys them immensely, laughs his head off and enjoys the sense that men are men and women, women and we jog along together with occasional lapses into grumbling before the inevitable parting. Thus is life, short and sweet and full of suffering as the Buddha said.

Grandad not all schools staff are sitting it out at home.

They are are working with their pupils online, liaising with other staff and setting next term's work, ie working at home, just like you and your DW.
My DGD 's teachers have worked until the early hours to make sure their pupils will have enough work to do at home and are continuing to do so.
Meanwhile their mother is in school as normal.

I really don't think that trying to set one group against another at this time is at all helpful.