husbands working from home

I have a cat like that Lyndylou, he goes to the door,& sits,thats how he 'asks' to be let out usually, but more often than not,we open the door (which is straight into living room)& he just sits there,sniffing & breathing in fresh air,while all the heat goes out! I just give him a gentle shove to encourage him over the step,but my 2 boys will stay they for as long as it takes,letting heat out& cold in,while cat happily gets a breath of fresh air till he gets bored! Amazing!

I've been on my own for a long time. Usually I'm out and about seeing friends and family. Now I'm stuck in and sometimes I start to think it would be so nice to have someone stuck in with me. This thread has made me realise that's not necessarily true and being alone isn't all bad. The remote is MINE!!!
Sorry for all those who have lost OH and are feeling bereft but this is simply a way of coping for some people. If you don't like it don't read it. I think it's funny. Especially the locking up post!
If your marriage can endure through 12 weeks of isolation you can survive anything!

LyndyLou it is a lovely sunny day ! - I have opened the kitchen door and put the dog beds out in the garden so they can enjoy it - but no they are in the office with me. No central heating on but I do have a lovely yak and alpaca jumper on.

Of course as already stated in this thread, all these wives and female partners whinging and whining about their husbands and male partners are perfect in every aspect of their lives.
Therefore they could not possibly carry out anything that would upset anyone at any time.

Or could it be that we only hear one side of any story on this forum, with all the complaining being carried out behind their husbands or partners back?

Or could it be because such forum members do not have the character or guts to state what the say on here to their husbands or partners face?

I couldn't imagine what it would be like not to have my husband at this time; he is my rock and without him I would find it very difficult to cope as I am classed as 'vulnerable'. My children are in that category too so we are all in the same boat. Big virtual hugs to anybody without their husband but let those who have annoying husbands have their say because we are all entitled to have a moan occasionally. It doesn't mean that we aren't empathetic for those without and you 'gently' pointing out how lucky we are can be helpful too.

watch it grandad this is primarily a female space.

Dear moorlikeit, I recognise your frustrations about what you feel are things people need to cope with now, in this situation especially. May I just say though, that when people write in they usually make their situation sound slightly less awful than it is and sometimes people mention one thing without us knowing the circumstances, possibly even Clinical Depression that they may battle with. Please don't assume I mean anyone who has written here has clinical depression though, it was simply an example.

I'm trying to say that in a message here we can't always get across the pain we are in or quite express what we find to be the "last straw" that has made that pain unbearable? Even when it is a constant niggle, if we cannot escape it or have no valve to open to release the pressure of stress, it can become serious.

We shall need each other so much throughout this situation.
May I ask therefore, that though we might personally feel that a person's post is rather unimportant, we reserve our judgement and stand in support of each other? Obviously if a post is taking advantage of us and abusing our feelings and trust, such as the photo-accompanied post about the mother and child yesterday, we need to recognise it for what it is.
That is a rare occurrence on GN. I believe that what people say does come from the heart and even when we cannot quite "get" what they are saying, they needed to express it. We need each other, lets support each other without prejudice.

I do love the humour that so many people have displayed here! If I look for your names my message disappears. (good! thinks everyone).

Jillybird. My heart goes out to you. My situation was thus for 23 years, during which I daily endured things he did to me which now are against the law. I feel so very sorry for you. I then walked into another situation of being a man's prisoner in all but actually being in a cell, because I could not see what it was. Now I understand and some people think I am harsh, because these people are such good actors. There are internet groups who support each other in your situation. I don't know the nature of your partner's problems and am not asking, but sometimes you can find people who are surviving in the same situation. You've probably already done this so apologies if I'm saying the obvious. I would definitely have your own place in the house at this time where he cannot come and to which you may go for sanctuary. Oh and any sign of serious abuse and you call the Police. Isolation or no. You must be safe. Wishing you every piece of good luck for the duration of this isolation.

Well so long as he does the shopping and the cooking to feed this, what’s the problem? If he’s doing nowt and expecting you to shop and cook, stop doing it and explain why. Pretty straightforward

My husband is working from home.
What really annoys me is that he continually turns up the heating, to 22 degrees, every time I go past I turn it down...
Part of the reason is that he doesn't like 'clothes that are tight'. I just wish would wear something!

Yes it must be a 'bloke thing' cause my youngest boy(17 nxt month,but NOT going to see family to celebrate) hes same,comes down from his room regularly to see "whats for food?" as though hes foraging!(to be fair,he does this in all the college holidays& weekends anyway,so nothings changed!) But its costing an absolute fortune,plus his older brother eats extra 'snacks' and both stay in rooms 'gaming' on consoles, older one has OCD so has upped his washing,showering,& hand washing even more,so electrics going through the roof!But still,at least ive someone to moan to,(cat likes to get the last meow in though) And i'd much rather they were all here& safe than not??

We had a moment yesterday when I was cleaning the bathroom sink. He told me I needed to get behind the taps. I said I knew that. I had a special brush. He then stood watching until I chased him! It's a learning curve for all of us. He's used to being out and about and meeting people.

The only difference is,they are the ones who say house is too hot,as ive poor circulation so im the one guilty of turning up heating(that and fact they keep letting heat out for the cat!)so i guess we all have our own annoyances!

And yes,also annoying is they dont put any weight on with any 'extra eating' but i cant even look at a cake without gaining a lb??

OoooH! Grandad1943! You've noticed that we're all perfect in every way! Cor, thanks mate! Oh, not me as well? Just wives, not widows? Ahh.

You make a valid point though. Of course it could be a man being driven round the bend by an unreasonable woman. I mentioned how my dad suffered, perhaps you didn't see. I think the balance appears to be against you men here because far more women write in. I don't think anyone here thinks all men are the problem! It may be said in joke, but please don't think that the moans about the husbands mean we don't recognise that there are many difficult women too!

What we need and I would love to see is a lot more Grandad-aged men on our forums please!!

Rocknroll5me. My dogs never stay outside unless I go with them! They're currently sitting almost on the laptop in an effort to be as near to me as possible!

Yes us too icanhandthemback,we all 3 have some medical problems which put us on risk list,my youngest boy in particular,because of respiratory problems,& the medications he takes for that,plus both 'boys' have neurological condition.So putting up with the annoying stuff is least of our worries.

Im sure( hoping) that itl all settle down& become the new 'norm' soon..?and when weve warmer weather im going to try get my boys to get garden tidied.(they'll have no idea what their doing, but if they watch a few youtube videos first im sure theyll pick it up)

This is my first post as I am a new member. Hazel 1731 I feel for you! I retired two years ago but DH retired nine years earlier. Many of my ways and methods for running the house were undermined by DH who didn't like being on his own at home. He was used to me being there when he was and looking after him, making his meals and cups of tea, etc.. It took a couple of years to adjust and now we jog along nicely. I think you should be able to vent without people critising you and being told to count your blessings. The lack of sport on the tv is taking its toll on DH though......

Try to stay safe people.and im sure we will all be on here to support each other!??

Well, if your husbands persist in behaving like children, treat them like children and lock the food away you don't want them eating.

On the heating issue: is it really necessary to turn the heat down so far that someone trying to sit at a desk and work has to wear a thick jumper and wrap himself in a rug?

Can't you let him work in a room that is warm and keep the door to it closed?

Hi Hazel I'm glad you are letting of steam here. There's no reason not to have a rant here which may help avoid a big row. My mum rants about my Dad all the time to me and rants to him as well.

I'm trully sorry for the ladies who have lost their other halfs but I can't see our this is thoughtless when Hazel didn't have a clue of your situations and is purely allowed to let of steam in this unusual situation that we are going through.

I told my DH the other day that I was really lucky to be housebound with him. I can’t imagine anyone I would rather be with.

My DH has an infection in a tooth that needs to come out. Visited emergency dentist hoped we didn’t catch anything. He has vascular dementia and anxiety and depression so is not a bundle of laughs at the best of time! He doesn’t really under stand about washing hands etc and thinks that I am making it up. I really don’t know how much longer I can do this. All clubs , carers stopped. Rant over!

What we have in this thread is husbands wives and partners working in very rare circumstances which very often they find extremely worrying and stressful. However, in carrying out that working they are maintaining an income into the home, which seems to have been totally forgotten by those women criticising and whinging against those working at home in this thread.

Would those criticising had preferred to witness there partners and husbands laid off and their companies shut down as many workers are at this point in time?

Like my own company, we have employees working from home in an effort to keep going, and through that there will once again be employment for all when this crisis is all over.

But of course, there are those in this thread who do not wish to support their husbands, partners, the organisations that they work for, or this nations efforts to pull through this crisis in some sort of good order.

All those criticising wish do is selfishly whinge and whine with no support whatsoever for the efforts their other halves and so many others are making in keeping their employment, their companies, and this whole nation going in a time of unprecedented crisis.

Oh Grandad1943 Do you never get down from that soapbox and have a laugh?
Incidently we also have single women on this thread but I suppose they don't count.

I lost my husband 6 months ago and though I really miss him and would love him to be still here with me I know he’d be driving me up the wall and I’d be worried sick about him getting I’ll. So moan away ladies (and gents) I can sympathise and wish at the same time.