Age 68 and I got caught out by daughter shopping

Thank you welbeck. The Motorcycle Helmet Law was in 1973. I was riding on the back of a motorbike well before that. You're wrong Gran52.

I’ve reported some posts as being nasty and hurtful - I don’t mind hearing opinion that are different to my own but there’s no need for the vitiligo tone of some of them

Vitriolic, not vitiligo- predictive text

OK growstuff .... you're not a youngster then. Perhaps you would like to let us know why you thought it a good idea to go out on a motorbike without a crash helmet... maybe you were not capable of thinking things through? The lady who posted this is clearly a sensible adult who is obviously very capable of making her own decisions. You on the other hand sound like someone who likes to throw your weight about

If the OP has friends or family volunrteering to help she should accept that help gracefully and thankfully.

There are many of us who are over 70 who may not have that help and who knows what you have to do to get a supermarket to recognise you as elderly and self-isolating?

I've tried all of them and unless you have had a letter from the government saying you are "extremely vulnerable" it is well nigh impossible to get a delivery slot.

Varian for your info - SD is doing our shopping and we are grateful for it - my trip to the shops was because we ran out of something we needed and I didn’t want or expect her to run to the shops for us again as she is busy with a full time job in a hospital and looking after her family and in laws too.

Gran52 I reported Gmore for her nasty hurtful comments

I hate it when the OP puts up the thread then drip feeds info after other posters have answered her original question.
I stand by my original comment, you asked our opinion and when it has differed from what you have done, you argue back to justify it.
Then up pops some more info.
I still wonder what the point of the post is?
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Hear! Hear! Oopsadaisy3 This thread has been one of those.

I honestly and truly think it sounds like the kind of thread a teenage WUM, bored with no school, would start.

Well growstuff I didn’t think I would be allowed to actually say that!
Ho Hum....

As helpful as your step daughter is being, you are perfectly at liberty to do what you wish for yourself, particularly as you are trying to remain within the government's guidelines. It sounds as if she is passing her own 'story' and judgement about the situation onto you. Don't forget you also have your own story and judgements!

Insisting that she does your shopping for you, against your own personal judgement, is actually a certain form of bullying in a strange kind of way, hidden under the guise of 'helping' you while telling you that you should be grateful.

Being older shouldn't mean that you can't think for yourself or do things for yourself. It's your right to feel comfortable with what you choose to do, no matter how helpful or grateful you feel you 'should' be by someone's offer of help. If you are not comfortable with the situation, then it means you are being coerced and that's not fair or right.

Don't forget that as long as you are keeping within guidelines, you have every right to take any path which you feel is right for 'you' without having to feel guilty or ungrateful.

I suggest thanking your step daughter for her valued offer of help while letting her know how grateful you are but while also stating that you would feel more comfortable getting your own groceries during this lock down period.

At this point, Especially knowing all your step daughter has on her plate, I’d be frustrated in her shoes too.

She’s going out of her way to help, and in her eyes, you just made it all mean nothing.

If you want to shop, go do your own shopping. But I wouldn’t have her do the lions share anymore.

I certainly dont have a problem with it as I am a similar age and I am not classing myself in the at risk category. My husband is slightly younger than me and he chooses to do the shopping, so I am not stopping him. If you carry out all the health things then dont worry but I would leave your phone switched off in future. Take care and stay safe. X

You’d think thevOP would be aware if you he pressure hospital staff are under and wouldn’t want to add two more Covid sufferers to the number.

I wonder if she’d come back and help explain her thinking.

Eg

I’m careful. I won’t get it

I’m following the guidelines. They will keep me safe.

If I get it, it won’t be too bad.

I’d rather do what I want than help save lives

etc

Dear me that awful spellcheck. ?

I'm probably not either Oopsadaisy lol (but it's what I actually think).

I’m reading your comments but quite honestly I’m sick of the assumptions, misinformation and downright bitchiness from some of you - the term “keyboard warriors” spring to mind

I’m thankful to all those people who took the time to give their considered opinion and advice and support.