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Kissing as a standard social greeting. I hate it. Am I strange?

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Frankie51 Mon 07-Sep-20 10:41:10

Am I the only person who is relieved not to have to greet complete strangers with a continental type greeting of hugs and air kisses as we now practice social distancing? .
I love to hug and kiss my family and my closest friends, but have never been comfortable kissing after business meetings or social events when I don't really know someone. I hate it. Am I too uptight?, My husband loves hugging and kidding everybody and can't understand my feelings. If I pull away and try to shake hands instead people tease me or act as if I am being rude. I met someone at a social event just before lock down who went to the same school as I did and we got chatting. When we left for home she and her partner both gave me big hugs and kisses, and she said, "thank goodness you're a hugger. I don't trust anyone who won't hug or kiss" I was actually very uncomfortable. I had a normal happy childhood, I'm not shy, I'm very confident and I enjoy company. I hope that kissing disappears after the pandemic as the form of greeting. Any one else feel the same?

Farmor15 Mon 07-Sep-20 10:45:21

Yes! I'm also relieved that hugging and kissing people you hardly know are now taboo.

Soozikinzi Mon 07-Sep-20 10:45:30

Yes 100% the same one good thing to come out of the pandemic is the end of all that kissing .

Jaxjacky Mon 07-Sep-20 10:49:28

Lived in France, so it became the norm and didn’t bother me, I’m normally a hugger, but just a quick one with friends.

H1954 Mon 07-Sep-20 10:50:13

At last! Someone who "thinks" like me! I detest this Social kissing malarkey too! My OH has a large family, we have not been together very long to be honest. Well before lockdown we began introducing each other to our respective extended families. All his brothers, cousins, their wives husbands partners etc ALL wanted to hug and kiss! ?. Many has stubble, even the women lol, some had bad breath, a few were smokers and one particular bloke was a tad too touchy feely for my liking! I couldn't wait to get home, it was a very unpleasant experience!

EllanVannin Mon 07-Sep-20 10:56:59

Imagine how I feel coming from a family who rarely showed emotions ? To me it was the norm in a " post-Victorian " household and fussing of any sort wasn't the done thing.
When all this palava came about all I could think about were germs having a field-day grin I could be right.

merlotgran Mon 07-Sep-20 10:58:00

I've never been happy with hugging and kissing anyone other than a family member.

I'm rubbish at guessing whether it should be an air kiss or a smacker, whether you should do one cheek, left or right, or both cheeks?

My DGDs have got it right. They approach you with arms outstretched, signalling that they want a hug and that will do nicely thank you.

Grandmabatty Mon 07-Sep-20 11:31:30

I like a hug and am known as a hugger. However I wouldn't hug and kiss a stranger, maybe shake hands in the past. I have a couple of friends who are definitely not in the hugging zone so I leave them alone and smile instead.

Jane10 Mon 07-Sep-20 11:55:44

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who doesn't like gratuitous kissing and hugging. Stopping all that is one good legacy of this pandemic.

Juliet27 Mon 07-Sep-20 12:00:14

I'm relieved that all that nonsense has had to stop and I no longer have to feel a killjoy for avoiding unnecessary hugs and kissing

LadyBella Mon 07-Sep-20 12:02:40

When did it ever start in this country? I too hate it. I don't want to be hugged and kissed by strangers or anyone outside my family. Totally daft.

Juliet27 Mon 07-Sep-20 12:02:53

I'm rubbish at guessing whether it should be an air kiss or a smacker, whether you should do one cheek, left or right, or both cheeks?

Embarrassing if you end up giving a smacker on the mouth.

threexnanny Mon 07-Sep-20 12:11:59

Another one here who is glad to cut out the hugging and kissing. Banging elbows is rather fun though.

Particularly hated feeling obliged to kiss anyone who smoked or had stubble.

crazyH Mon 07-Sep-20 12:16:35

I have never understood this habit of kissing when you meet, kissing when you leave, even though you've only just bumped into each other in the supermarket. The only ones I hug and kiss are my grandchildren.

ExD Mon 07-Sep-20 12:16:59

I've hated it since I was a child. I thought it was just because I'm an undemonstrative Northerner.
I rather like the palms together 'Namaste' (like praying) and think it would would replace handshakes really well.
What's wrong with a big smile and a cheery greeting?
Elbow bangs seem weird.

FarNorth Mon 07-Sep-20 12:20:11

It's never really been a thing, where I live, and I think I have an off-putting look that would deter it, anyway. grin

It started happening a lot in TV shows - Kevin McCloud and, I think, Phil Spencer do it.
I expect it caught on from there.

Beauregard Mon 07-Sep-20 12:20:14

And me. I've always felt uncomfortable with it. I just want a hug from my grandsons (going forward in the future) and that's it.

FarNorth Mon 07-Sep-20 12:28:40

When I went on a school trip to Germany, in my youth, everyone shook hands at the start and end of every encounter, including all the teen-agers and children.
I liked the way it felt much more definite than the usual casual Hi & Bye of Britain.
I don't know if that's still the usual thing in Germany.

FarNorth Mon 07-Sep-20 12:29:18

(not at the moment, I don't suppose)

FindingNemo15 Mon 07-Sep-20 12:32:24

I was never brought up to receive any affection let alone kissing so all this has come hard to me and I do not like it.

One of our neighbours always goes for the mouth and I hate it.

Oopsminty Mon 07-Sep-20 12:32:44

I've never been a kisser or a hugger.

So if the virus stops this it's good news for me

midgey Mon 07-Sep-20 12:37:07

Oh definitely with you here! You can be very friendly towards people without all the touchy freely nonsense.

Calendargirl Mon 07-Sep-20 12:56:48

I so agree. We never used to hug and kiss everybody. For me, it is embarrassing and awkward. I just don’t want to do it.

I shall keep using the pandemic as an excuse for years to come if possible.

quizqueen Mon 07-Sep-20 13:08:24

I've always hated it too unless it's a bloke I may fancy a bit. I certainly don't want to kiss any women. My grandchildren want to kiss me on the mouth and I don't like that either so the pandemic is a good excuse to keep it to cheeks only now.

Franbern Mon 07-Sep-20 13:21:17

Never been much of a hugger and kisser. Even in the family, and usually only hug small children. Did not like the so false kissing upon meeting of people who were virtually strangers, quite happy that it will be out of order for a few years at least.