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Kissing as a standard social greeting. I hate it. Am I strange?

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Frankie51 Mon 07-Sep-20 10:41:10

Am I the only person who is relieved not to have to greet complete strangers with a continental type greeting of hugs and air kisses as we now practice social distancing? .
I love to hug and kiss my family and my closest friends, but have never been comfortable kissing after business meetings or social events when I don't really know someone. I hate it. Am I too uptight?, My husband loves hugging and kidding everybody and can't understand my feelings. If I pull away and try to shake hands instead people tease me or act as if I am being rude. I met someone at a social event just before lock down who went to the same school as I did and we got chatting. When we left for home she and her partner both gave me big hugs and kisses, and she said, "thank goodness you're a hugger. I don't trust anyone who won't hug or kiss" I was actually very uncomfortable. I had a normal happy childhood, I'm not shy, I'm very confident and I enjoy company. I hope that kissing disappears after the pandemic as the form of greeting. Any one else feel the same?

Esspee Mon 07-Sep-20 13:30:32

I am not a natural hugger unless I really care for someone so I am happy that physical contact is now frowned upon.

However I have always been happy to shake hands on introductions and was horrified to have automatically done so at the weekend. Both of us mid handshake realised that we shouldn’t be doing so. Cue lots of laughter and apologies.

trustgone4sure Mon 07-Sep-20 13:34:14

Family and friends only,why would anyone kiss anyone they work with ?.
My gs tells me he owes me 28 kisses and hugs since Covid19 adviced us not to , i can`t wait !!!.

Willow500 Mon 07-Sep-20 13:37:30

Hate it and don't kiss anyone. It was/is one of the reasons I've always hated NYE - all that false bonhomie and kissing everyone in the room at midnight. Ugh!!

ginny Mon 07-Sep-20 13:44:16

Hugs and kisses from family and hugs from good friends .....lovely.
Anyone else...... No thank you.

Kate1949 Mon 07-Sep-20 13:44:41

Well I'm glad it's not just me. I hate it
It's awkward and embarrassing.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Mon 07-Sep-20 13:48:17

I don't like kissing and hugging people I don't know well and I'm glad I'm not alone. I reciprocate out of politeness.

MamaCaz Mon 07-Sep-20 14:05:35

I hate it too. Hugging and kissing certainly wasn't something that our family did when i was growing up, and as far as I was aware, no one in my parents' wide circle of friends ever greeted each other like that either.
Even now, the only people I am comfortable about hugging are my grandchildren (kisses too when they are little, but only on their heads).

My youngest dgc (age 2), despite being very affectionate, has made it clear from very early on that she doesn't like cuddles, not even from her parents. She will happily race up to any of us as if to cuddle us, but makes the quickest contact you can imagine. She's also only ever given air kisses, never on the face, unlike most young children. Unusual, perhaps,, but nice. My kind of girl grin

Justwidowed Mon 07-Sep-20 14:23:14

I'm glad it's ended too.I only liked hugging and kissing my husband. Although I did hug and kiss my young grandchildren and great grandchildren before Covid. Oddly enough one of the few to spontaneously hug me since my husband died is my GP who is very much a people person..A hug from her was very comforting.

Alexa Mon 07-Sep-20 14:39:07

I hated it! I never learned one is not supposed to kiss the other's cheek but just kiss the air. I like my own social space and always have except for dogs, horses, babies , and sex.

PamelaJ1 Mon 07-Sep-20 16:26:38

Definitely not the only one. I hug and kiss and cuddle those I love.
I don’t want to do the same with anyone else.

morethan2 Mon 07-Sep-20 16:42:12

I’m with you op. I once stopped going to a very good hairdresser because he used to do that continental kissing malarkey. I use to think “your my hairdresser not one of my family’”

PamelaJ1 Mon 07-Sep-20 16:46:08

I’m a beauty therapist and I can do without hugs from my clients.

grumppa Mon 07-Sep-20 16:47:45

Worst of all are manhugs!

AGAA4 Mon 07-Sep-20 17:00:34

I am sure we didn't do all this social hugging and kissing when I was growing up. I don't like that sort of intimacy with strangers.

MiniMoon Mon 07-Sep-20 17:20:19

I can't be on with all the kissing and hugging either. It makes me feel very uncomfortable, particularly with people I'm only just meeting.
I do love a hug from my grandchildren, and have missed them during the lockdown.

TrendyNannie6 Mon 07-Sep-20 17:29:25

Oh no yuk, kissing strangers, kissing friends nah not for me, hug for friends that’s ok,

larry5 Mon 07-Sep-20 17:37:40

I an glad to have met my sort of people. I really don't like hugging and kissing people when me meet. My sister lived in France for a number of years so is very much into kissing but until recent years I have tried to politely avoid hugs and kisses from people other than close family so am so pleased not to have to kiss people now.

I love hugging my dgs though.

Calendargirl Mon 07-Sep-20 17:50:26

Makes you wonder if all this hugging and kissing all and sundry in recent times has greatly contributed to coughs, colds, sore throats, flu etc.?

GrandmaMoira Mon 07-Sep-20 18:11:23

I'm glad to see lots of people here who feel as I do. Like many English people, I wasn't brought up to hug or kiss people who are not close (and even then rarely) and feel uncomfortable.

MamaCaz Mon 07-Sep-20 18:25:54

Regarding France, as it has been mentioned once or twice, a French friend told us - maybe about 25 years ago - that kissing wasn't so widespread in France when she was a youngster in the 'fifties.
It certainly wasn't the norm in her day for all the students in secondary education to hug and kiss (perhaps just a handshake between boys) each other every day, as seemed to be the case by the time her own children were at that age. She wasn't very keen on that development!

craftyone Mon 07-Sep-20 20:25:53

I hate it too and am glad that it won`t be happening again. The only ones I like to hug are family and good friends. Social and strangers, absolutely not. I like my personal space

Chewbacca Mon 07-Sep-20 21:59:38

I dread that moment when you're just meeting or just leaving friends and you can see that they're gearing up to lean in for a hug and a kiss. Family and very dear, close friends are different, but friends of friends, or people you don't know too well,'s just...... awkward.

LauraNorder Tue 08-Sep-20 05:22:18

Oh yes, I am definitely of the opinion that if any good is to come from this virus it will be the ending of the need to kiss and hug every Tom, Dick and Harriet.
I think we have imported this from the continent and it is the best way to spread germs and discomfort.
I love a hug and kiss from my family members but that’ll do me.
A friendly smile and a ‘nice to see you’ is fine for everyone else.

JennyNotFromTheBlock Tue 08-Sep-20 07:55:06

I'm not the huggy-kissy person, it works only with the closest ones, so I'm also relieved we can't and won't do it.

Liaise Tue 08-Sep-20 08:04:38

I'm pleased to read all your comments as I thought it was just me who hated kissing people. I don't want to hug them either so distancing suits me well.