It seems terribly morbid I know, but something that has bothered me a lot since the start of all this is the possibility that either my mother, aged 93, or either of my husband’s parents, both aged 93, might die during this pandemic. My husband and I and my mother all live on the south coast, which is Tier One, whilst my sister and family, and all my husband’s family (except our children and grandchildren of course) live in the north, all in Tier Three. The government advises against travel into or out of Tier Three. If any of our elderly parents died, heaven forbid at this difficult time, my sister and family would want to travel down here to the funeral, and if either of my parents in law died, there would be an expectation that my husband, aged 68, would travel up to the funeral. I’ve already stated categorically that I will not go north, whatever the situation, at this time.
I know worrying about it won’t change what may, or may not, happen. But I do worry about it. They are all three very old, and they may die, not necessarily of Covid19 but of anything. I think a very small funeral service followed by a family attended memorial service and wake, later on, when it’s safer to travel, would be the best solution, but I know there would be resistance from family members, particularly my sister (in the event of my mother’s death) as my sister suffers from major mental health difficulties, which make her selfish and unable to see anyone else’s point of view.
I put this out of my mind as much as possible, but underneath, I worry about it a lot.