Grammaretto On one level it certainly is a blow that your family elders cannot be at the funeral in person, very sad for them, on top of the grief of losing a beloved son and brother.
But as your Fil was already ill, had they insisted on coming out into the cold (and I'm sure they would), the consequences on fragile health could have been another blow none of you need.
How kind of your friend to bring a supper - are you vegetarian?
dragonfly you're right, it sounds like a virus got you when your resistance was low. The answer is as much rest as you can tolerate. I've just been told one risks 'post-viral syndrome'. (ME) if one tries to recover too quickly.
Mamissimo you have a most wonderful sense of humour. I always know, when I see you post, that I'm going to laugh aloud or, at the very least, smile at your comments. Thank you.

Lots of splendid good news from Panache - just the revolving chef situation to tackle now! It's pitiful isn't it?
Makes me want to roll up my sleeves and get into that kitchen 
Doodle because I have to wear sunglasses all the time, I've made that mistake too - usually thinking it looks like rain and postponing laundry - only for it to be sunny all day 
Nortsat I bet that juicy satsuma was delicious!
Wee Gubbins is doing very well thank you and yes, every photo I receive shows changes. She was small because there was a slight malfunction of the placenta which meant she didn't get as much nourishment but she's catching up now. 
Maybe she'll be a foodie like her Gramlyn?
Missedout brilliant news about your thumb and other health issues. So happy to hear of that progress.
I smiled at your attempt to cook for your inlaws - I made exactly the same mistake. Who knew one duck wouldn't feed 7 people? 
Cherry It sounds as if you too need a LOT of rest my girl; don't risk your very fragile health by unnecessary feelings of guilt, it would be sad to be laid up again. 
Pork Pie Tradition
I grew up knowing pork pie with pickles would be part of Christmas breakfast for us and everyone we knew.
The B&W photo shows Dewhurst Butchers in Ivegate with queues to the top of that street and beyond every day the week before Xmas as they made the best stand pies in Bradford.
That photo evokes so many childhood memories and indeed Mum and I could well be in it as stand pie was one of the few things she didn't make at home.
I can smell the delicious aroma even now. Pork pies, hot from the oven and sold before they could cool. Yum.
Because I couldn't get a decent stand pie here (the pastry must be crisp and buttery - supermarket ones are like damp carboard) I began making my own. (see still life with grapes
)
It's not difficult but it is fiddly and long-winded to prepare and necessitates cutting pork shoulder off the bone and dicing it with a very sharp knife and we all know the risks of that.
Not to mention working with pans of boiling water and fat.
So, as my eyes are bung, I decided to buy in.
But I'm not 'appy.
So - pork shoulder is on the shopping list now and I'll just make an extra effort to be very, very careful.
If anyone's interested, I'll post a picture of the blood and fingers pie. I think I may make a round one this year.
The tradition itself goes back generations and has as many variations as families. Some add mace, some nutmeg, others swear by ham with the pork, others say smoked bacon....and so on.
My son is partial to Gala Pie, which is a pork pie with boiled eggs in it's middle, so I'll make one of those as well.
Wishing you all better days. 