Totally agree BlueBelle, my thoughts exactly.
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Do people not understand the rules . Am in tier 2 and the amount of people having visitors in my neighbourhood is unbelievable . Not seen my grandchildren for weeks or spending Xmas with them .Does anyone else think its selfish.
Totally agree BlueBelle, my thoughts exactly.
This morning the mother of my daughter's boyfriend has died of Covid.
She was 87 and was in hospital for a UTI, but has caught Covid and died this morning.
So, yes, I get annoyed with people who are selfish and risk the lives of others.
I don`t understand the surprise (!) at not everyone obeying the rules,
you only have to look at the criminals,, they don`t obey rules
as an example,, someone sticks a knife into another human being.. what do they expect?
just saying!
Masks! "just wear a mask" is what I want to scream whenever I see someone in a shop without one. But I meekly don't say a word.
Yes it is selfish, our neighbours ( in their 50’s and good health) have had all 3 adult children visiting for Sunday lunch every week , even in full lockdown, otherwise most people are wearing masks etc
Don't they fine them? They certainly did here. Nothing like a hefty fine for making people obey rules!
Yes, I am fed up with rule-breakers but have made a conscious decision to stop getting worked up about it.
All I can do is the right thing, and keep out of the way of not just those that don't but pretty much of anybody: any of us could become infected by others' carelessness.
I am lucky, and have considered myself so since Lockdown began in March:
I am a very contented, middle-aged spinster. OK, spilling out the top end of middle-aged, to be fair.
So I don't have children and grandchildren to miss.
My two brothers live either 100 miles north or 200 miles south, so we always have communicated by phone or text, and still do.
I have three close friends: one is still Shielding; one I see masked on the doorstep when we exchange knitted and crocheted things; one I go walking with once a week. All in addition to texts etc, of course.
I walk with a Rule of Six group, once a week.
I shop for necessities, and for the occasional takeaway coffee.
I don't find it at all hard to understand my Tier 3 rules. It doesn't matter if I don't totally understand the why, I am happy to stick with them.
So I'm OK. I don't find the rules hard. However, I'm not insensate: I really feel for people who have family and friends that they're missing, it must be agonising.
When I was in HDU for a short time in September, the cleaner who was changing the bed linen in the cubicle close to me, wore a mask over her mouth but not her nose. I was very concerned so mentioned it to the nurses who subsequently advised her. Unfortunately out of the nurse's sight the cleaner pulled it back off her nose and this was within a department with seriously ill patients. So frightening.
I'm sick of people who say we are really careful , but when you add up how many people they have mixed with , how can they . People think the rules are open to interpretation , to suit themselves . I have not left my house since March and don't intend to .
You should have told her to try some de-mister spray for car windscreens. My DD gave me some and it’s brilliant.
I wish rule breakers would be fined. Kay Burley admitted breaking rules but no police fine. Now we hear Princess Beatrice out with friends in London restaurant. I bet she won't be fined.
Tesco staff, mask on, with their snout hanging out over the top. People on general getting too close - I just cough if they do that - surprising how quickly they jump hack! Angry because I have stuck to the rules (though I don't believe masks are as effective as we are told to believe).
All of our family were struck down with covid, were all very ill, my husband has just been discharged after 3 weeks on a covid ward, and now facing many months of recovery. Caught, I fully believe.at the supermarket, we'd not been anywhere else..
And, as a result. I understand we have immunity for some 4-6 months, from catching it, and therefore immune from carrying it and passing it on. However I still comply with the loathsome masks, correctly worn, despite that in our cases, they are pointless.
I agree with Blubelle.......this is now getting so ridiculous it is hard to believe the government cannot treat us like adults and leave us to make our own decisions. This virus will remain with us now, like flu ....and as is the case there, Spanish flu was eventually virtually eliminated as will this be .....until the next unknown virus gets us ....its the circle of life ...unexpected things happen and we are lucky if we avoid anything happening to us in life ...........just count your blessings..there are a lot of people worse off in the world with more to worry about .....and PLEASE stop twitching the nets and watching what others get up to ............some probably keep a diary ..i.e. 10.00pm Mrs X allowed TWO people in ....fetch the Police ............OH there are SEVEN people outside in a row ..........call the authorities .........ah, yes, its a bus stop .....aaargh !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I wish rule breakers would be fined. Kay Burley admitted breaking rules but no police fine. Now we hear Princess Beatrice out with friends in London restaurant. I bet she won't be fined.
And I am sick of seeing stupid Piers Corbyn's face at a rally every weekend. He was apparently taken to court but then, once again, he pops up. I would jail him for a week to see if that would stop him inciting others.
Nicegranny
I love your message - in my view men not wearing masks have neither balls nor backbone.
Don't get me started about people of all ages who leave shops like an M&S food store without using the sanitiser provided.
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I wear a mask in shops. I hate wearing it as I am claustrophobic. I take it off outside & do not walk close to anybody else.
I have tried all sorts & they all steam up my glasses.
I am doing what we are being told is needed but I do understand there are some people who really have a problem wearing a mask.
If the rules made more sense to people they may follow them. I can go to a filthy sweaty stinking gym then for a swim with at least 40 other people but I can’t sit in a pub with my own husband, whether we eat or not.
The rules are there to be followed but certain groups and businesses are being forgotten about and left out in the cold.
I follow the rules because that is my nature, I don’t like to be a non conformist, but I can see why many are not.
TwoWolves wrote: “ I refuse to wear facemasks - I said I wouldn't wear one, and I meant it. Just do not believe they are in any way effective and that they were only ever made mandatory to get people back into the shops.”
No, TwoWolves, masks provide a certain degree of protection against aerosol infection, which is the major way in which Covid-19 spreads. I wear a mask not only for the level of protection it affords me from others, but also because I might be an asymptomatic carrier and without my mask could be spreading the virus. Do you really feel you have the right to put others at risk?
Maddyone just wanted to ask how your Mum is? Sounds such a nasty fall. Whereas, I think you needed to be with her, cannot understand her facility not having keys to her flat. Surely the House Manager must have a set of keys for everyone for emergency use.
Do hope she is recovering well, falls at that age, and particularly such nasty one as this, can be very damaging.
One of the more horrible things that have come out of this year is so many people wanting to find someone/anyone to blame for everything. Neighbours, Students, School Children, families going to the beach, demonstrators, shoppers - all have come in for this sort of criticism from others. I find this very, very sad.
So, if someone was curtain twitching about me, they would see me visited by my daughter weekly, (straight from school) and by various g.children, etc. We are notno rules, they are my 'bubble family', and their visits have made the difference to my mental health throughout. They all follow strict hygiene rules - hand wash as they come through my front door - and we have not cuddled, etc.
Do wish people would be less concerned at what they envy their neighbours doing, and if they want to take that much interest in their local community do so by helping out in providing the so much needed food parcels, toys, etc to those in desperate straights.
spanielnanny my heart goes out to your friend and her family suffering so much from a cot death. Nothing anyone here can say can really help. I do agree though, that being apart from our loved ones for so long, can be forever. When my eldest daughter became ill (absolutely nothing to do with Covid, or anything in the slightest infectious), recently, my first reaction was to drive the 130 miles to her house. I was persuaded by another daughter not to do so, but it was very hard.
Neighbours of mine both consultants working in hospitals sometimes with Covid patients have this week had several friends of the children home for tea, friends for dinner on Friday evening and friends for lunch yesterday. They weren’t in the garden either !
So you don't believe masks work, next time you need an operation (hopefully you never will) just tell the surgeon not to wear a mask as they are no good for stopping infection.
I don't get annoyed with the rule breakers just think to myself what plonkers they are.
Yet another selfish ignorant woman who thinks they know better than everyone else TwoWolves
Same here and the worse culprits for mixing appear to be the over 70s and 80s. Haven't seen the DGC since l don't know when. We will be seeing them at Christmas outside for a walk socially distanced my DD is like many others an over worked stressed nurse.
I am exempt from wearing a mask l wear a bright red easy to see lanyard says l have medical conditions unfortunately I look "healthy" l have been shouted at and sworn at right in my face by mask wearing people. I no longer shop alone I am too frightened and I am sick of people wearing masks coming too close to me and my DH are they stupid a mask does not stop them getting the virus or spreading it they mess with the masks don't antibac their hands touch goods on display no wonder it spreading. As for 3 families at Christmas well what can you say 3rd wave arriving in January just when the NHS is at its most stretched.
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