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Travelling to family for Christmas?

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Mirren Tue 15-Dec-20 10:18:52

We have been very cautious as regards the virus all year, not taking any risks at all . In the summer lull we managed to see all 4 of our children and our little grandchildren but that's it. We managed to see a little more of our daughters in Edinburgh ( not much though) but have only seen our beloved son and his lovely wife and 2 little girls once since January. They live in Berkshire. We live in Northumberland.
As soon as Boris announced the Christmas details we arranged to go to them for Christmas.
We will be terribly careful. No other mixing etc . I don't think I will even dare to visit the loo in motorway services on the journey.
Now the latest news is the rise in the south with a new variant virus.
I am a GP , was retired, now back working during the pandemic so I fully understand the details and the risks.
However, I still don't know what to do. I really don't want to disappoint my son and family. However, with the vaccine being released this week I wonder if we should delay?
What would everyone else do?

growstuff Wed 16-Dec-20 19:22:48

SunnySusie I'm in the same category as you and had worked out it will be some months before I'm called for my jab. It depends how long it takes to get the AstraZeneca/Oxford vaccination ready.

earnshaw Wed 16-Dec-20 21:16:45

as a GP you surely know the risks , they are just not worth taking.

GrandmaKT Wed 16-Dec-20 22:36:16

We are in the same boat (in fact I started another thread about it earlier in the week). We've just had a phone call with DS and DIL and decided that they will go ahead with their xmas visit to us. They haven't been mixing with anyone (wfh) and neither have we. The kids have been in school of course but nobody at their school has been diagnosed. Looking forward to a quiet family Christmas with lots of country walks and board games.

Hetty58 Wed 16-Dec-20 22:58:01

I totally agree with Luckygirl that it makes no sense to take risks after all the months of sacrifices we've made.

Of course, we won't be totally happy spending Christmas day all alone. We are big girls now though - so we'll cope and make the best of it.

We've all seen the consequences of Thanksgiving after all. The locals planning get togethers are now dubbed the 'Suicide brigade'!

misty34 Wed 16-Dec-20 23:29:19

I thought we had been asked not to stay overnight during the Chrismas relaxation? It was on the news earlier today.
Also not to visit in an area that is a different tier to your own. Not sure if this is relevant in this case

SusieB50 Wed 16-Dec-20 23:36:14

I’m in a support bubble with my DD and family, they have been in quarantine since the weekend as the GC have been in contact with cases at school . Fortunate in a way as it means they will have been isolating for two weeks before Christmas . So we will be together and will meet DS and family for a walk and a drink and presents before Christmas lunch , probably outside or with the patio doors open ! DH died last NY eve so it will be a difficult day for us all .

Jillybird Thu 17-Dec-20 01:23:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sloegin Thu 17-Dec-20 01:43:30

As an ex nurse it's refreshing to read that there's a doctor who's being cautious! Sorry, but we nurses years ago used to say ' do they think they're sterile' when some of them were less than careful about prevention of cross infection! I know of a consultant in our local hospital who had a dinner party last week! But of course you're a woman and I think generally women are more careful. My advice; if you isolate as much as possible before journey and family do the same, drive down limiting contact with others ( for a pee go off motorway and find a secluded spot behind a hedge). Try to resist hugging, ventilate house as much as possible and isolate on return. I would go in your situation but unfortunately my family are in Wales and England and we're in Northern Ireland so we're not seeing anyone. Can't wait for the vaccine.

Hithere Thu 17-Dec-20 03:40:45

This is only the nth thread that will be opened for this same question - still 9 days for xmas.

Shropshirelass Thu 17-Dec-20 09:04:49

It is just one Christmas, I would delay a visit to be on the safe side, it is just not worth the risk however hard it is not to see family. The vaccine is light at the end of the tunnel, almost there. Stay safe.

dragonfly46 Thu 17-Dec-20 09:12:06

My DD and SiL have just taken a Covid test to ensure they will be Covid free and are isolating before they come. Fortunately they have no children.

OmaforMaya Thu 17-Dec-20 10:05:14

sodapop

I really can't understand this obsession with Christmas family gatherings given the current circumstances. A lot of us have not seen any of our families for well over a year and in some cases a lot more.
If you have to come on here and ask the question then that should tell you something. I'm really losing patience with it all now.

Sodapop I totally agree with you. We are adults and after the year we have come through why are these questions still being asked? My family live in the Netherlands and I havent seen them since last Christmas. (Thank goodness for technology) I miss them like crazy but circumstances are what they are and the whole world is in the same position. We all know what we should be doing for our own and our families safety. Keep safe everyone and have a Happy Christmas wherever you are. tchwinktchwink

moggie57 Thu 17-Dec-20 12:04:31

Not worth the risk