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Coronavirus Christmas - oops I may have seriously upset SiL!

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Ilovecheese Mon 28-Dec-20 17:41:48

I think more people should do as you have done, Daftbag1 people who continue to do exactly as they please because they don't think they could possibly be responsible for spreading the virus, need to be told that they are not immune, and nor are the people they are meeting. But unless they actually feel a consequence i.e. the removal of an invitation, why should they think about changing their behaviour. You are not the one in the wrong here.

Patsy70 Mon 28-Dec-20 17:41:03

No need to feel in the least bit guilty, Daftbag1. You did the right thing, without a doubt. We’re hearing more tales like this all the time, where people refuse to accept the evidence of this dreadful virus, and ignore the strict rules. angry

Jaxjacky Mon 28-Dec-20 17:32:18

You were and are quite right, I’m fed up with hearing these tales, cross and embarrassed some are people I know. Multiple bubbles, just popping in for a cup of tea, crossing tiers, absolutely pig sick of it.

Smileless2012 Mon 28-Dec-20 17:31:50

There's no need for you to feel guilty Daftbag as she was potentially putting you all at risk and of course herself too.

Daftbag1 Mon 28-Dec-20 17:27:27

Xmas eve DH's, DS turned up with Xmas gifts (and that's another story), she's single, late sixties but still working and because we live close, we are her bubble. Anyway, she was due on 25th for lunch so I was a little surprised to see her but tum te tum, she's a bit like that.

Anyway, I made her a cuppa and we sat down for a chat, during which she informed me that before coming to us, she was going to see her neighbours on either side, then one daughter for a mince pie, before going to the other daughter's for present exchanging. I thought she was planning to doorstep them all but as she spoke, it became clearer that she was actually going in to all these places.
I expressed my surprise and concern, as we are a Tier 4 area, and in addition we are meant to be her bubble. At this she laughed saying 'im a poor vulnerable old lady and entitled to my bubble's'! I explained that she could only have one bubble, and that she needed to make a choice. I also pointed out that she would not be able to get to all these places and be back for lunch. 'Oh but you will wait for me'!
I'm afraid at that point, I decided enough was enough, and politely told her that I was withdrawing her invitation for Xmas lunch and that I wasn't prepared to risk having her round and placing us at risk. I also suggested that she might want to take a minute to read the rules.
Sadly, I suspect that she is not alone in continuing to live without any concern about who she is placing at risk. She is an intelligent woman, and yet she behaves in this way. The worst of it all, is that I'm now feeling guilty!