Coronavirus Christmas - oops I may have seriously upset SiL!

There's no need for you to feel guilty Daftbag as she was potentially putting you all at risk and of course herself too.

You were and are quite right, I’m fed up with hearing these tales, cross and embarrassed some are people I know. Multiple bubbles, just popping in for a cup of tea, crossing tiers, absolutely pig sick of it.

No need to feel in the least bit guilty, Daftbag1. You did the right thing, without a doubt. We’re hearing more tales like this all the time, where people refuse to accept the evidence of this dreadful virus, and ignore the strict rules.

I think more people should do as you have done, Daftbag1 people who continue to do exactly as they please because they don't think they could possibly be responsible for spreading the virus, need to be told that they are not immune, and nor are the people they are meeting. But unless they actually feel a consequence i.e. the removal of an invitation, why should they think about changing their behaviour. You are not the one in the wrong here.

You did the right thing. You have to protect your family.

Your SIL appears to value her own health lightly, but she should consider that of her brother and of you. Let us hope that by you sensibly withdrawing your invitation she will encouraged to consider her cavalier attitude. We all need to take responsibility for not only our own health, but how our actions may affect others. Well done you, for having the courage to take a stance, you have nothing to feel guilty about

Don’t feel guilty , you are right. If she won’t consider the risk to you then it’s her loss.

You did absolutely the right thing.

Who knows it may, unlikely but lets hope so, get through her thick skull that these rules/regulations are there for a reason.

'im a poor vulnerable old lady and entitled to my bubble's'!

She's not old, still working, gadding about and doesn't sound in the least bit vulnerable. Just irresponsible.

I hope she had a crust of bread and a bit of mousetrap cheese for her Christmas Day lunch, though - I'm sure you wouldn't want her to go hungry, Daftbag.

You did the right thing and SIL will get over it. My partners 2nd year student GD went home to mum on Xmas Eve after working in retail for 2 weeks in a big city and then saw 12 members of the family over 2 days! She didn’t get a Covid test (no time) and assures everyone she doesn’t have it. I am so glad my 82 yr old partner saw sense in October, cancelling his trip up to DD for Xmas hols. Happy New Year everyone!

You were absolutely right; if she wants to become really ill, at a vulnerable age, that is her choice, but her spectacularly selfish behaviour could kill others - we all know it has happpened. The NHS is struggling badly right now we are told, due to people who seem to think like her, and you have wisely protected yourself and those in your home.

She was behaving like a total irresponsible idiot. It's her who should be feeling very bad and guilty now, not you. Whenever you start to feel a bit guilty, think about how you would have felt if you had allowed het to do what she had planned and then your husband or another family member had got the virus from that day and died. You were protecting yourself and your family. She was showing that she didn't care enough about you/them.

I think that's quite cruel of ypou. People living alone have really suffered during this Pandemic and being sociable and having social contact is more important in my book but that's just my opinion because I disagree with a lot of what this government has done .

I agree she is not alone. My daughter's in-laws; in mid-eighties just don't think it applies to them. eg he was telling me how someone they hardly knew from bridge club had knocked on their door with house warming present he was confused because she wasn't a friend...I said that's OK just a neighbourly thing...you didn't let her in though. Of course we did he said as if I didn't know my manners.

You are 100% in the right and have no need to feel guilty - I think I'd have let her know she is one of the reasons that you are in tier 4 - what a selfish stupid woman your sister-in-law is!

Daftbag1, you did absolutely the right thing.

It's quite amazing that so many intelligent people seem to be in complete denial.

It's not that they don't understand the rules. Somehow, they think that they're above them - or some 'special exemption' - for the silliest of reasons.

We are trying to save lives, our own and others. Nothing is more important than that!

All the health bit aside. In a normal year when popping around would have been acceptable, the fact that she would be late for dinner and expect you to wait for her is very rude.
That by itself is unacceptable and unreasonable behaviour. If I invite people for lunch I don't expect to guess what time I can serve because of a selfish inconsiderate guest.

I have one sister on her own and she’s been strict of the rules and she lives alone. I invited her for Christmas Day and she came as we are her bubble had a lovely day but she even refused to play board games as Boris advised against this! So we watched a film.?

Taliya

I think that's quite cruel of ypou. People living alone have really suffered during this Pandemic and being sociable and having social contact is more important in my book but that's just my opinion because I disagree with a lot of what this government has done .

No wonder it is increasing.
We'll never get on top of this if people keep socialising.

You did the right thing, Daftbag.

My own sister and my best friend have (only just recently) stopped laughing at my 'paranoid overreaction' and 'hermit-like existence' due to the virus threat.

They have taken the mickey and put me down since March. I've been quite upset about it.

They have 'adjusted/translated' the rules to suit themselves, of course.

Well done, DD lives 500 yards away only saw them for 60 mins on the day . GS was 14 on 26th video call . They maybe our care bubble a roll 18 year old GD takes on ,coffee every Wednesday at 2PM all other time and of phone

Turn it round in your mind.She is at fault not you.She should've feeling guilty as she was considering putting you at risk. You've done what is right. I know two ladies over 70 who have decided not to visit their daughters and families although it made them lonely and sad for the day. Please don't be made to feel that You did anything wrong.

My DD has suffered with fragile mental health as a result of worrying that she will make someone else ill by catching the virus and being asymptomatic. She has been so careful throughout, mostly working from home but having to go to work occasionally.

One of her close friends from schooldays was behaving a bit like your SIL which really upset her so she was relieved that a few days before Christmas she was pinged by the covid app and was forced to isolate! We both agreed that it was for the best as she would otherwise have risked her parents both of whom have serious medical conditions.

My DD bubbled with responsible friends in Glasgow where she lives and had a nice day. I spent the day alone as I'm 400 miles away and most of my friends have their own bubbles. Neither of us would have seen her school friend but we were concerned for the people who would have, and angry that she was prepared to bend or break the rules in that way.

You did the right thing, but it must have been hard for you to do. If more people were prepared to speak out about irresponsible behaviour we wouldn't be in the situation we're in at present with the NHS at imminent risk of being overwhelmed!

We saw non of our family over Christmas and when my son and dil came yesterday to deliver a chair we stood in the garden to talk to them. You did the right thing. Keep yourself safe, it’s all you can do!