Coronavirus Christmas - oops I may have seriously upset SiL!

Not just "indoors" but indoors at many different houses, one after the other, passing on anything that may have been picked up from the previous houses. Then planning to move on to Daftbag's house for Christmas lunch and be treated as a "poor vulnerable old lady and entitled to my bubble's'" - where they would delay their meal if she was still exchanging germs elsewhere. Some people just don't get it.

You've definitely done the right thing but I can understand how, human nature being what it is, you feel uncomfortable.

Confrontation is never easy, especially when you basically like someone.

Other people will side with you if she chooses to tell them to try and win them over. Try not to worry.

Biscuitmuncher

So you are ok with her going to work, but she can't have a brew with someone?

It’s a brew with many someones.
You make it sound so innocent “have a brew”. It’s contact, indoors.
I despair.

Biscuitmuncher

So you are ok with her going to work, but she can't have a brew with someone?

There’s a difference in going to work , where , hopefully, protocols are in place , and flitting from house to house spreading the virus

So you are ok with her going to work, but she can't have a brew with someone?

I've been alone all Christmas, I know it upset my daughter, it made me cry, and I missed the GC dreadfully, however, its necessary, its needed, this virus doesn't show ANY symptoms in some people, so when people say 'I dont have it! Its fine!' they haven't got a bloody clue if they do or not!

To the lady who sad it was cruel, sadly, its people just like you that are making this pandemic worse. Its not cruel to deny someone round who could spread a disease for goodness sake, its sensible!!!

Crystal!

Thank goodness, thanks Lucca!

You absolutely did the right thing.And I despair when I hear about the way so many' misinterpret 'the guidelines to suit their agenda.Friends of ours went down to collect their adult DD from London to a lower tier because' it wasn't fair 'she couldn't join them for Xmas- and said they have had enough of being told what to do. .She has a nice flat,partner for company and plenty of money coming in for nice food,treats etc.It is one Xmas.Our DD was bitterly disappointed not to come home but accepted it was for the greater good.I will find it hard to be civil for to them for some time tbh.This is why were in this extended mess.
ForeverAutumn.So sorry to hear what a dreadful time you're going through.

You are not guilty.
This is how the virus is spreading and you were protecting your home.
I do wish soap operas, adverts and public information broadcasts would broadcast examples of this. The selfish need to be identified.
A couple of examples of unsafe behaviour on Eastenders, Coronation St and Emmerdale would educate these idiots and encourage others to keep safe.
Just because they are known to us doesn’t guarantee they are sensible.
We need the idiots to be identified particularly those in the streets who refuse to wear masks.
No masks = stay at home.
Wear masks correctly.
Shame those not complying.

Callistemon

The virus doesn't come out after dark, joysutty.

Actually, I must be careful not to use irony or be subtle in my posts as, apparently, I can be misunderstood even though I stated unequivocally earlier in the thread that

1 Daftbag did absolutely the right thing
2 Her sister-in-law is wrong and irresponsible

3 NannyC2 was spreading fake and possibly dangerous conspiracy theories and
4 when I said I see where you're coming from now, NannyC2 I meant that such as: "The Illumination of Conscience will soon arrive for ALL on earth sounds like it is LalaLand.

I hope I have made myself clear

Crystal!

You did the right thing. Some people still don't seem to understand the rules and if they do they choose to ignore them. This virus will never go away when people behave in this manner

Daftbag1 - you behaved impeccably.

Taliya - your behaviour is reprehensible - why oh why do think that rules don't apply?

As bereavement counsellor and psychotherapist in a hospice I know more than most how mental health can be affected by isolation, but I also know how people's complete lives can be taken away from them by ignoring rules around infection control.

The idea that you should make Daftbag1 feel guilty for trying to protect herself - and others, is outrageous.

The virus doesn't come out after dark, joysutty.

Actually, I must be careful not to use irony or be subtle in my posts as, apparently, I can be misunderstood even though I stated unequivocally earlier in the thread that

1 Daftbag did absolutely the right thing
2 Her sister-in-law is wrong and irresponsible

3 NannyC2 was spreading fake and possibly dangerous conspiracy theories and
4 when I said I see where you're coming from now, NannyC2 I meant that such as: "The Illumination of Conscience will soon arrive for ALL on earth sounds like it is LalaLand.

I hope I have made myself clear

You did the right th ing. An old friend of mine who lives in a different area told me when it gets dark she goes to her various friends houses for meals with her partner. An intelligent woman in her 60's. Also couldn't believe my ears.

You did the right thing,I suspect the others werent brave enough ti say it....well done.

Well said everyone else, I completely agree

As I agreed with everyone else except one? dissenter on this thread, I would like to know what you mean by that too.

Cossy

Callistemon

I see where you're coming from now, NannyC2

What one person believes to be the truth could, of course, be scientifically dismantled by others who do not believe it.

I’m not entirely sure where either of you are coming from, but it’s a place I think I should avoid !

Well said everyone else, I completely agree x

I would like to challenge you on that statement Cossy:
I’m not entirely sure where either of you are coming from, but it’s a place I think I should avoid !

If you are another COVID denier then please state so clearly and, probably, GNHQ delete your post too.

I prefer to listen to the known facts, statistics and science.

If you know better please enlighten us as to the place your theories emerge.

Lucca

Good to see GNHQ deleting posts which spread fake news,

I noticed that too. Well done GNHQ!

Good to see GNHQ deleting posts which spread fake news,

GrannyRose15

You may have done the right thing Daftbag1 as most people on here seem to agree with you. But don't expect your SIL to forgive you for withdrawing a Christmas Day invitation on Christmas Eve. I certainly wouldn't. I'm with Taliya.

I don’t think I’d be bothered about being “forgiven”.

I am sorry you and your husband are going through that ForeverAutumn and I do hope he turns the corner.

Taliya

I think that's quite cruel of ypou. People living alone have really suffered during this Pandemic and being sociable and having social contact is more important in my book but that's just my opinion because I disagree with a lot of what this government has done .

She wasn't going to be alone though she just refused to limit herself to one bubble - entirely her own fault.

you did nothing wrong at all OP

montymops Sumption believes in the "survival of the fittest". If you're over 60, disabled or have health conditions, you'd be expendable.

If anybody does seek him out, be aware what he's about.

ForeverAutumn Sorry to read your news.

Well said Jojo60, Hithere and Callistemon!

Daftbag You did absolutely the right thing. You should be proud of yourself for standing up to her.