I don’t know who I am

Or was on the wrong thread/forum?

( maybe the OP has just finished some important exams!!)?

Writer, musician, mother, wife, daughter, sister, cousin, friend, philosopher, keeper of home fires burning, working for justice and amongst other things lover of going to sleep every night.
Just glimpses of me.
Dawn

Quite a few grans here define themselves by kinship relations. Maybe younger women, and men, more often define themselves by their paid work. Maybe people don't talk about how in their heart of hearts they define themselves.

Maw... that’s what I thought too.

Do you have children Lfranc? Grandchildren?

You've been married for 39 years. That's an achievement not everyone attains.

I know exactly who I am- why do you think you don't LFranc?

I wonder what you meant? I'm a wife, mother, daughter, friend. Perhaps if you expand and expound to your post?

Sorry if you're feeling confused, Lfranc. You know your age and marital status. What else can you tell us about yourself?

Me too. I’m caring for my mother with dementia. Sometimes I feel privileged to be sharing this part of her life, other times feel like I’m suffocating

How to have a whole thread about a simple statement, no background, no question, no issue(as far as I can see) - maybe OP had second thoughts ?
In any case what is the point of second guessing what they were on about.

“I’m a million different people from one day to the next” - The Verve.

Daughter, sister, mother, granny, Naval officer’s wife, rebel, friend, good girl, naughty girl....

"How should I live?" (Socrates)

Me too gillybob, when did “ I “ disappear ,I know it sounds strange ,not all the time thank goodness.

I sometimes wonder “who I am” too .

I used to park in a lay by with a bar of chocolate after I'd been to see mum! May be a cry would have been better.

I am me. Different roles at different times. What others think of me no longer bothers me. I do my best to treat others as I would like to be treated .
I hope the OP comes back to tell us what she is trying to say.

Nothing wrong with a good cry Dawn22

I think there are lots of roles I have played throughout my life but above all I am my own person, confident and comfortable being me.

Do any of us know anything?

HTH stands for hope that helps hope that helps

Missed out ex M-i-L there!!

Daughter, Granddaughter, niece and cousin, never a sister.
Wife , daughter-in-law, sister-in-law, aunt-in-law.
Mother, Mother-law ,Grandmother.
Widow.

lfranc72 do come back and have a chat many people feel a loss of themselves when a certain role finishes maybe losing a mum or dad or a husband, a forced retirement, adult children moving away, grandkids growing independent They may lose one role and be in a limbo of course they may be other reasons behind you feeling this so write a bit more to us and see if anyone on here may connect with your feelings

No idea what HTH mean gonegirl

Humbertbear
Better to sit in your car and scream rather than cry as some women do.
D

Our roles change through life. Having been a wife, mother and GM (still am) and successful academic I now find myself primarily a carer. I do it all willingly but sometimes I just sit in my car and scream.