BradfordLass72 oh wow, did you teach out there? I have seen adverts offering lots of money to teach there and even considered it myself. But I have ties here, thankfully!
I think a big problem is that "the white man" has been for so long treated like a king in China. They are quite racist even to their own people but treat white people better as if we are better. Of course, we are no better! I hope in time that China will be less naive about the "white man" being perceived as better and richer because sadly it is often not the case!
The Chinese Mother in law is to be feared, sadly and the wife will often have to live with her in laws when she marries. Modern Chinese women want independance frm tradition and they think by marrying a white man that they will get freedom from that- and they think they are marrying into a rich family. Because often Chinese families will buy the couple a home, that seems to be expected.
I do think it unfair though that DIL1 expected to be free of tradition but to have all the benefits such as property, full time childcare and all baby stuff paid for - yet wasn't willing to lift a finger and expected to be treated like a queen for having produced a boy child. It's a shame that I was naive about what having a Chinese Dil could have meant. If I had known what she expected, I would have nipped it in the bud before she came.
As far as DIL2 goes, I was honest with her from the beginning so she was under no illusions about "wealth". She told me about her family business suffering and seems to have her feet on the ground. Being in her thirties, she's no kid and I'm sure she will be fine with the help of her family. Her Mum has offered to help her for her confinement of one month (yes that's a thing there!) and I think my Ds2 will have to deal with it.
Thanks for all the messages. i know some have suggested I'm making it up! I WISH! You could not make this stuff up!
July 23 Limerick (continuation of July 21)