Cut out of the estranged GPs will, dilemma!

Narcissists have no empathy. At. All.
Sad, but true.

I've always talked about my inheritance, it's not taboo at all.

Depends on the relationship, spose.

Feelings FlyingSolo it's about letting yourself know what you actually feel, not think, feel.

Feel to heal. We all need it.

Well, I imagine that would depend on whether they estranged you or you estranged them but honestly in my world, in other words, poor, inheritance isn't much of a thing. I don't hear about people really inheriting. Its more about having to clear their house out and tidy away the life the deceased once had rather than particularly actually gaining anything. And clearing out a house and sorting practical things is often something you really don't want to deal with. You are right, I am not getting this.

My husband always did a lot to help his two aunts who lived many miles from us and from each other.
When one aunt, who had no children, died she left money (several thousands each) to a dozen great-nephews and great-nieces but left two of our children out. No idea why, nothing untoward had ever been said and there was no explanation with the will.

My husband was heartbroken. He gave our two children the same amount the others had all received out of the money his aunt had left him. So he, who had done so much for her and her sister over many years, was the only one who lost out financially.

We've never told our children as he didn't want to spoil their memories of their great aunt.
I can't forgive her though for upsetting my husband so badly.
She was one of those people who are all for "the family" but she had no understanding what a devoted father he was, and is.

I don't know ananimous. She was very abusive and in my opinion a narcissist (I'm not a doctor). Won't know how I feel till I get there x

Why are you here? Mawb

To find more faults with me so you can hate me a little bit more.

Seek out my threads and pester away. It makes good reading, I supppose, if your up for that kind of bullying.

That's nice MawB. Can we carry on chatting now please x

*Either way

Yennifer
I would expect an estranged GP letter would be devoid of any self-awareness unless/until there had been a reconciliation.

Even if it's a nasty letter/bland it may, one day, help you with closure.

I wish you life-luck anyway.

My mother was left nothing by her father, even though they weren’t estranged and he was quite well off. Her mother had died, and father remarried. He left everything to his second wife. I know my mother was quite hurt that she wasn’t even mentioned in will.

I wouldn’t have thought it was that uncommon for adult children to be left nothing, if there’s a spouse alive.

I have NO personal feelings towards you ananimous
TBH I am agog with indifference.

A very big ask, I know.

Flying solo
You have missed my point completely.

This thread is for exploration of feelings on being disinherited... in the hope it may change some minds on GN.

I wasn't thinking about inheriting until I was told I wouldn't be FlyingSolo and then I didn't think about it until this subject came up x

I just can't imagine how any mother could ever stop loving that tiny bundle of joy - no matter how hurt, disappointed or rejected by their child later on.

We surely start off wanting the very best for them (well, the vast majority of us) so how can it then turn into a wish to upset those we created?

Mawb
I can explain it, but I cannot make you understand it.

Perhaps you could try re-reading the thread sans the bad attitude towards me.

Yes, I get it you hate me.
So what.

Maybe I will get my husband to read them, I doubt it would be anything nice. The time for saying nice things would have been any time before croaking and it's all been horrible so far x

I can't understand this thinking about inheriting off anyone. If you have a good relationship with your parents you want them alive and don't or shouldn't think about inheriting. And if you don't have contact at all would you even notice if they died so why think about inheriting. Honestly, my view is that inheritance is only something to think about in terms of people inheriting from you and not whether or not you will inherit off anyone. I'd only think about having an inheritance after receiving an inheritance. It doesn't feel right to me to think about inheriting whether estranged from them or not.

I sense a dogpile coming...

Yennifer
Good ideas!
I'd like to suggest you get a friend to open them, is all, and read them - in case you ever want the closure, or change your mind, then youhave the option to ask, and there may be cash in there, anyway.

I only mention that as sometimes our feelings can change drastically over time. Not intending to invalidate how you feel now.

What knife ananimous ?
A strong feeling of deja vu added to just wondering what you are aiming to gain from this discussion.
Have you experienced this , are you planning it or are you just nosey.

meaning what?

I'm not like you Greymar.

What is the pay off for you ananimous in this delving?

Yes cut out of the will but not fussed at all as hadn't thought about it before I was cut out. I haven't lost anything. After reading comments here I am now expecting some sort of letter, possibly to my children too. These will be burned unopened. Already agreed with my children. If they get left anything they said we will use it for family holidays etc so that her money brings us closer. My children are beautiful people x