Cut out of the estranged GPs will, dilemma!

No point in working towards anything with a narc - stay away.

I thought it may help others to know how it made you feel.

So, emotionally how did it make you feel?

Relieved?
Angry?
Full of hate?
sad?
Nothing?

I cannot imagine cutting someone out, nor how it would feel to be cut out.

I wondered if it would help to share those feelings, and by doing so, show others the effect, and after effect of such a cruel last message.

someone I know had children with a man from a different culture to her, throughout the marriage he was under constant pressure from his parents and then siblings to send them money, it put a lot of stress on their marriage. they split up and her solicitor told her he had been giving his siblings a lot more money than she had ever known. because the family had missed out on dowry when he got married his parents and siblings overseas constantly thought he owed them

Yep, my mother is still alive in a home and I will not benefit from her will.
I am the only one who visits her or has done anything for her in years.

She is a Narc and would hate to see me benefit in any way.

Such is life.

Mawb Don't stick the knife in so quickly.

No, I do not, but have read many, many posts now, and see this as something that might help somebody back to good terms with their kin.
This bitterness could be addressed. Negative emotions are also telling us a lot.
In psychology there are all the answers.
We have had them for decades now.

I hate that GP have given up, when, with some work on themselves they could change the script completely...and have GC in their lives. Instead of saying "Oh well sorry for you" and that's it, I prefer "come on try harder they are worth the trouble."

Yes, a family member was cut out of their parents will, because he stood up to them, we did too, but it doesn’t matter now because the family member died last year and the ‘inheritance’ is going to be used for Nursing Home fees.

But DH goes to see his mother out of duty, not affection and always said that he would split his share with his DB, as I said it is a moot point now.

Not all sons and daughter who dislike their parents refuse to see them, sometimes they just see them less frequently, but once the trust and love is gone it’s gone, you can only take so much.

Yes, I was cut out of my mothers will. I was shocked at the time as I had no idea. But now it doesn’t bother me at all though I suppose it’s been two decades since she died so a very long time ago. Families are more often than not very complicated where relationships are concerned. Each person has their own take and feelings about everything and just thinks the rest of their relatives are all crazy but for them!!

Oh yes. My (childless) aunt took umbrage because she wasn't the first one invited to DS's christening. We rather thought that we should make sure that the grandparents and godparents should be able to make the date first, but she couldn't see the logic of that.

She decided that I wouldn't get anything and my uncle went along with it. She died first and I continued to visit my uncle - because I wanted to, not for what I could get. He didn't change his will, so I inherited nothing. I can't blame him for leaving his 'wealth' to his blood relatives, though, and I'd already decided that if my aunt was so b****y petty I'd give any inheritance to charity anyway!

I have a feeling this topic has been aired before?
Does anybody else remember?

Wondering if you have personal experience Ananimous ?

Has anyone been cut out of a will? - I would like to hear their thoughts.

Also, it is a symptom of the original dysfunction that lead to the estrangement in the first place.

It appears to me, some GPs would prefer estrangement rather than take a cold hard look at themselves, to see what they can change in order to re-connect with their AC.