My goodness there are a lot of interesting articles posted here. However intelligent and informative they are, they do rather overcomplicate the issue. Do people suit all these traits? Do they tick all the boxes on this checklist?
Really there is only one question. Do you have a bully in your life?
A bully is a person who continues to engage in behaviour that they are aware hurts you, that would not harm you or them to stop
That may seem like a rather broad statement. It is not. It is very simple.
If the focus is being placed on your reaction to their bullying behaviour it detracts from the real issue. The bully in your life.
Bullies are online, in friendship circles, in the workplace and in families.
Most bullies will tell you they have a right to their behaviour {insert justification} and believe they are entitled to treat you as they wish. Whether this is someone in a position of power over you like an employer or an older family member, or simply by rote of a strong personality, bullying is not acceptable.
A bully is a person that continues to engage in behaviour that they are aware hurts you, that would not harm you or them to stop
If a person continues to engage in behaviour that hurts you and has a detramental impact on your ability to enjoy your life (not including habits or mental illness you have that ignoring would harm you) then you are within your rights to take steps to remove that person from it.
Bullies are often shocked when it is pointed out to them that it is their behaviour causing all the issues. Not because they are unaware but because they believe they have the right to behave that way and asking them to stop is a personal attack on them.
This is not true. No one has the right to be a bully for the sake of their enjoyment of life.
A bully is a person who continues to engage in behaviour that they are aware hurts you, that would not harm you or them to stop
You have the right to be free from bullying no matter who the bully is and to take measures to protect yourself. Even if the result is estrangement from a family member.
I laughed today and it felt good.
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic