We all do it. Little suggestions of how to do this, that and the other to new mums. Which ,makes them squirm and feel got at by the wise older heads. How I remember mum saying I was doing stuff wrong, from how I laid baby down to sleep, to how I responded to crying. Lol. Then one day I found myself saying it to new mum in family. We dont mean anything by it, we are just trying to be helpful. One day i said the last sentence to someone who was squirming, and from that day, all went well