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For All Mums On Mothers Day ( Estrangement)

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MBM Sat 13-Mar-21 06:41:21

As tomorrow is Mother’s Day l realise how painful it will be for Mums who have no contact with their Sons, Daughter’s
or Grandchildren .
For me it’s only been three years but l realise for many it’s much longer.
I could never have imagined the pain estrangement brought l miss my daughter and my beautiful Grandchildren so much .
There was no argument just a new partner who took control within a few months , the last card l had from her was a few weeks before he moved in saying ( Mum if I’m half the Mum you are to me , , l will be a Wonderful Mum . thank you for always being there for me ) l have tried to contact with no response, presents returned and now they have moved and l don’t know where she or the children are .. l have no family and just a few friends who live the other side of the country.
I can only pray one day they will contact me when they are older. Each day l hope & l pray that her and my grandchildren are safe and happy
Yes Mothers Day will be dreadful and each one seems to get harder.
I hope all Mums who are going through this can find some kind of Peace .
Take care & stay safe
Nana 2

seacliff Sun 14-Mar-21 11:01:21

Such sad stories, they make me weep. I don't understand how some can be so cruel. I am not in that position, but my relationship with one has deteriorated, and I do worry how it will go in the future.

Very best wishes and hugs to all who are sad today. flowers

Anniebach Sun 14-Mar-21 11:02:58

Didn’t mean to cause upset, just saying an estranged child can live their lives as they choose even if it we are cut out of their
lives, we give them life , it’s their life .

Pain when we bring them into the world and pain if we have
enforced separation from them. It’s being a mother , not one of us would choose not to have had the joy of their childhood
or the dreaded teens !

nanna8 Sun 14-Mar-21 11:09:54

OMG Littleannie, that is wicked. He must be sick in the head. Some of my grandchildren I don’t see that often but usually on Mother’s Day we go out with some of them who live nearby. Our Mother’s Day here is 2nd Sunday in May.
? and ? for you Littleannie.

Kandinsky Sun 14-Mar-21 11:19:10

I must admit I agree with Annie.
As much as it hurts living with estrangement ( and I do ) at least my child is alive and living quite happily.

Madgran77 Sun 14-Mar-21 12:16:56

Annie I dont get the impression you have caused upset. Mother's Day is a hard day for some mothers for many reasons and each person feels the pain for their particular situation flowers

Whiff Sun 14-Mar-21 12:34:42

Anniebach my heart goes out to you. I grieve for my husband even after 17 years. But the loss of child must be unbearable. Your grandchildren and son in law must miss her terribly. After my husband died what gives me comfort is his DNA lives on in our daughter and son and 5 grandson's.
Your daughter lives on in your grandchildren. I hope that gives you some comfort.

LittleAnnie how wicked of him. I hope you have blocked his number. Last text I had off my son was to tell me he sent an email and not to contact him. That was May. Only other communication was a vile letter he sent with all the unopened birthday cards and presents and birth card and presents in August. Not hear a thing since. If he ever does decide he wants his mother back in his life I can never forgive him or trust him ever again. I would rather have silence than receive anymore vile emails or letters.

Luckily I have a wonderful daughter, son in law and 2 grandson's. My other 3 grandson's are lost to me. Unless they want to know me when they grow up.

??????? to all mom's

Sparkling Mon 15-Mar-21 05:32:08

Whiff,what a dreadful thing your son has done, let's hope he lives to regret it and tries to reconnect. Meanwhile, you do have family you are part of and support you.
Annie, so very hard to lose a child, can't imagine the pain. If estranged just to know they and alive and well is what's important, we just have to let them be.

Armadillo Wed 17-Mar-21 10:27:59

I didn't have a good mum but if I did I would make mothers day so special as it should be flowers for all the good mums who don't deserve nothing for mothers day.

Yoginimeisje Fri 19-Mar-21 08:13:58

Annniebach so very sorry for the loss of your DD flowers I remember when it happened and we did pm each other at the time.

Littleannie what a terrible thing to say to you, really shocking! I had similar from my estD.

Yoginimeisje Fri 19-Mar-21 08:22:57

MBM sorry about your sad situation flowers
Very similar to mine, but mine's been 8yrs now. From being very close and loving, to NC what-so-ever. Don't know where they live either, I know the area, but not actual add.