One of my usual coping mechanisms is working on a project. Usually decorating or diy. At the moment it's the outdoor work. Currently trying to paint the shed but am somewhat thwarted by the weather, it's quite autumnal here. As soon as I get going it starts to spit with rain - like now. Very frustrating. Hopefully it will just be a few spits and spots and I can get out there again shortly.
I can understand that sorting out your will has eased your mind. I wont do anything just yet, I'm just adopting a wait and see approach.
But I'm pretty much resolved now to moving house for a fresh start and a new life. I bought this house In 2018 as a project. I have nearly finished its refurbishment. I have stayed here because there is so much space for the children when they by visited. But, if they won't be visiting, then I don't need such a big house, nor would I be restricted to living fairly close by them to facilitate helping with child care.
I can downsize, free up equity and have more money in my pocket. Maybe rent for a while and travel a bit before making any final decision as to where I want to live next.
It occurs to me that I will be as free as a bird......who knows I might even become a snowbird and start flying south for the winter. Get some winter sun on my old bones.
I am not going to put my life on hold, waiting for my son to wake up and smell the coffee.. I will finish off a few final bits and pieces over the winter and then I will put the house on the market within the next 18 months.
Alphabetical girls and boys names January 2024