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love0c Fri 31-Dec-21 09:01:59

So sorry Shelbel. Hang on in there. It will get so much easier. This is so similar to what happened with my mother. Death means no hope left. However, you will find this will become less and less uppermost in your mind. Take a day at a time and be kind to yourself. All these confusing feelings are so normal. But, please believe me these will pass! smile flowers

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Shelbel Fri 31-Dec-21 08:53:29

Thank you Violetsky, that's kind of you x

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VioletSky Fri 31-Dec-21 08:43:58

I am so sorry for your loss.

It's not the loss that those with good parents feel but it is OK to grieve what you didn't have growing up.

It is OK to grieve your sisters leaving you in the dark to punish you for simply not accepting abuse.

I'm sorry they put you through this and that they haven't taken the time to reflect on why you cut ties or made any effort to be accountable.

It was wrong of them to withhold that news and break their word.

I hope you are OK.

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Shelbel Fri 31-Dec-21 08:14:12

My father died in December. I was not told by the Twisted Sisters like they had said they would. To be honest I knew they wouldn't. My son told me. I wasn't asked about flowers or any arrangements etc, but I expected that too. I didn't go to the funeral and couldn't travel anyway because of Covid. (I live in EU). I did send a condolences card to my Estranged mother. I thought I should but now I question if that was worth bothering with.

Aside from that are my feelings. I haven't cried or had strong feelings about it. I'm just sad that he couldn't have been a better father, had been honest or actually apologised. There's no chance of any resolution now and that's hard to live with. I have the same to go through when Estranged mother dies.

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