Lolo18, I have read your posts, after scrolling back, as I had missed a lot due to illness. Something, just one line leapt out at me, the line you said, yes I estranged my mom because she gave my son liquorice. Now I don’t know why that was banned, perhaps he is diabetic or has some conditions that threatens his health. If that were the case I would not have left him alone with her if she just ignores me, but estrange no. If it was just you preferred him just not to have sweet things, I would. say if you continue to do this mom I can’t leave him with you. My late mil, was a nightmare, mine didn’t have a dummy but she got one and dipped it in sugar, she laughed off my wishes until we cleared the air. My children loved her I couldn’t and wouldn’t let that be a reason for not seeing the grandmother they loved. All the time people make allowances as we do for them, believe me no one is perfect, as their children will let them know 30 years down the line. There is so much judgement now and entitlement I wonder where the children's feelings are in all this, it’s like total control as only they know how things should be, no respect for parents who love them, so sad. No doubt you will say she did other terrible things that she shouldn’t. Remember watching a programme of the panel of Loose Women when all of them said, granny’s house, granny’s rules, thinking how I wouldn’t have done the things they did, but their children did and it was joked about. It’s curious how some people need this control. I just thought the more people that love them the better.
Long nails on older hands. What do you think?