Friendship,advice and support if estrangement has affected your life.

Yes, it's nice to see things back to normal - it's been much too hot this week for any discord.?

Hoping to get in the garden this afternoon, as it's a lovely sunny day in the South.

My knee has collapsed a bit on me, so I can't do a lot, but that won't hurt. Hopefully ,it'll wear off soon - it usually does.?

Hope everyone has a nice day. ?

I am off to see old friends for a catch up. So excited to see them! Takes my mind off other things!

Good morning. I too am happy to see some positivity. Lovely to hear of all your happy plans. It's been a stressful week for us and I really feel in need of a more relaxed weekend and intend to have just that. A spot of writing, knitting and resting for me and I'm keeping it simple with mac cheese for dinner later.

Sorry to hear about your knee diamondLily. My right one is dodgy and gives way at times which is so frustrating. Hope it feels better soon.

Good morning to you all. It’s been soooo long since I have been able to post on this supportive thread as my life has been a little bit more rocky than usual. To say the least!

My husbands illness has deteriorated and he was my priority anyway I didn’t have the head space to think clearly at all.

I’ve got support now and I’m coping much better with it he’s still at home For now and that’s what I want at present.

Our estrangement from our granddaughter is still the same but my daughter herself is blooming and like most of you on here is battling her way through the pain of estrangement to live a life well lived… I’m so so proud of her and the dignified way she conducts herself while suffering the pain of estrangement from her beloved child. She is in contact with her girl and is taking it very slowly trying to build a relationship with her again.

The third party that made it his life’s work to separate mother and child has had huge huge, problems to deal with mostly caused by his confrontational personality. I think though that keeps him going and he rewrites history and turns himself into the victim. It’s an art form and he’s very good at it but it’s exhausting for others and his truth is beginning to crumble. The pain he has caused is criminal.

I do think there are people who just can’t see others points of view and are blinded by their own anger and rage at others not agreeing with them.

Thankfully on this thread I’ve always found kindness understanding and support for my own pain so thank you you lovely ladies for all the very welcome advice and help I’ve had from you over the years.

When I first started to read the posts this morning I couldn’t find you!!! but reading on there you all were with your words of wise support and understanding. I was relieved to find you.?

I can understand upset at some of the posts but I’d ask that you please stay here your presence is needed even if you don’t know it and whiffand smilless along with others do a grand job of caring for others on this thread.

Hope you all have a good day today and enjoy the love and happiness we get from those that do love and protect us.

Thank you grannysyb your supportive post is very much appreciated.

I do believe in God DSL and have thanked him this morning.

You'll need to take care of that knee DiamonLily so I hope when you say you hope to get in the garden this afternoon, you mean to sit and enjoy the rather than doing any actual gardening.

Enjoy your catch up Madgran.

Yes, it's great isn't it hugs and I hope you'll be able to relax this weekend. Oooh I love mac cheese but we're off out for a Turkish meal this evening, having been rather naughty and gone out for an Indian last nigh.

That's the trouble with living here, not one of our favourite restaurants is more than a 15 minute walk away, and we have so many.

It is so good to hear from you Granniesunite it really is.

So sorry that your DH's health is deteriorating but relieved that you now have the support you need. I hope it helps to improve the quality of time that you have together.

It's been a difficult week so I can understand why you couldn't find us, I was feeling lost myself.

You have every reason to be proud of your DD. Just having that contact with her D is a huge positive and I hope that things improve all be it slowly.

"The pain he has caused is criminal" yes indeed. I'm glad that the truth is beginning to crumble. I'm a firm believer that 'the truth will come out in the end' and hope we live long enough to see that happen in our situation too.

Stay strong and take care of you and yours x.

Lovely to see you Granniesunite
I'm sorry your husband's health is deteriorating and I'm so glad you have some support at what must be a scary time.

I'm so glad your daughter is making some progress with the estrangement and I really hope that things keep moving forwards.

I've never been out for Turkish food smiles but the few recipes I found and made were really good so I'm quite envious. Do enjoy.

Thanks hugs I'm sure we will. It's a hard life but we manage to get through it somehow.

Whiff

Sorry Allsorts you are leaving hopefully not for long.

You are now the third one of long times to leave .

Is that the aim of others to get the thread closed down. If it is think again.

I have had a pig of a day and I don't want to see anymore of friends I have made here leave because of other people's comments. Enough is enough.

I am an estranged parent I didn't do anything to warrant what my son has done. Nor the mauling I got from my daughter in law on a different website.

I found the original support thread when I had no where else to turn. Smiles listen and helped me and gave me the confidence to openly post . If I was reading the last few pages I would still have sent Smiles PMs but would have been to scared to openly post about what's happened to me.

How many people who need help have read over the last few days and have been to frighten of getting told they are liars and it's their own fault that they are estranged from their loved ones.

When they need a friendly ear there hasn't been one they can trust .

I am not going to say what has happened to to me today because some here will blame me. But I do have friends here who I trust and will tell them privately.

Hopefully tomorrow we won't be losing anymore people who really need this thread.

But I will still be here . And hopefully any in fighting will stop. If you can't say anything nice or throw people's words back at them then don't say anything at all.

Good manners,politeness and kindness don't cost anything. Treat people as you want to be treated.

I too hope Allsorts doesnt leave this thread.
You would be missed, even by those of us who dont post much
Whiff you have been very thoughtful and kind to me in the past, so Thank you. I do hope you are having a better day today
❤
And as always Thank you Smileless for your never ending patience.
Wishing everyone calm and peaceful day (week, month, year, life!) Keep posting

Thanks Namsnanny wishing the same for you in spades.

Smiles "You'll need to take care of that knee DiamonLily so I hope when you say you hope to get in the garden this afternoon, you mean to sit and enjoy the sunshine rather than doing any actual gardening."

Oh yes, luckily, we have a garden flat opening onto a lovely landscaped communal garden, beautifully maintained by a team of gardeners. All I have to do is literally watch the grass grow. ?

Just as well, as neither of us could sort out a garden anymore. We opt for "manageable" things now.?

Hope everyone is having a nice day.

That's good to know DL. Well outside there's light rain,
Mr. S. is doing some work at our flat so I've decided to find a film on netflix, settle down with the dogs and enjoy.

Hi All, had a lovely day with friends today, great lunch, lovely wine (and a cheeky cocktail!) and easy train journey there and back! Funny how one can meet up with some people after a gap (they live abroad and are over for a few weeks) and just pick up again and natter for ever. Certainly weren't any silences today!! ?

Granniesunite lovely to see you posting but so sorry about your husband

So pleased you had a lovely day Madgran wine and a cocktail, I think we're going to have to keep our eye on you.

Just looking in Smiless2012 and everyone. Estranged 14 years and counting…

I have had a lovely day at a Well Dressing today. Sat out in the sunshine, in the church gardens, with pots of tea and cherry & almond cake, orange & almond cake and lemon drizzle cake made by the church ladies. Brass band playing, plant stalls, homemade jam and cake stalls..... it was just like Midsomer, but without a murder!

It's lovely to hear from you Sparkly. Goodness, 14 years. It's like looking back at another life isn't it.

Good to know there wasn't a murder Chewbacca. Sounds as if you had a great time.

So glad you had a lovely day madgran
Lovely to see you sparklygrandma
Your day sounds wonderful too chewbacca

Today, I won a place on a month-long intensive writing course which starts in September. Really looking forward to that.

Oh well done hugs let's celebrate . You go steady with the wine Madgran after that cocktail.

mines squash really but it's v nice

Smileless2012

So pleased you had a lovely day Madgran wine and a cocktail, I think we're going to have to keep our eye on you.

I would cheerfully have had another cocktail if it hadnt been time to catch the train home!

Your day sounds great Chewbacca. I love brass bands especially if accompanied by home made cake!

hugshelp winning a place on a writing course - how exciting!

I had a surprise a few weeks ago - I won a cheese hamper! And all I had had to do was fill in my name and email address. Still working our way through the lovely cheese! (NOT cheese and wine I hasten to add!!)

Yeah, yeah we believe you Madgran.

Just got in from our fab Turkish meal. Shared a Baklava for desert which I just have to have and Mr. S. deserved half because bless his heart, he got all the new kitchen floor in the flat laid today.

Love you Mr. S.; you're a star.