Friendship,advice and support if estrangement has affected your life.

Thank you all for your concern. I didn't get hurt. But felt an idiot. We always have a drink and biscuits after our exercise class. But found the exercises have helped with my strength and stability. Anyone with health problems I recommend a sit fit class. You will be surprised how much you can do when taught a safe way to do things plus it's a good way to socialise. Even if you are having a painful day it's helps with your aches and pains. And our instructor always tells us if it hurts stop. You should feel your body is doing some work .

Looks like another evening of everyone wanting to be downstairs where it is cooler.

Hoping to get enough peace to read my book.

Its called Daughter Detox and it is really good if anyone needs help unraveling a relationship with a difficult mother

I hope your book is enjoyable VS

Whiff Im glad you are not injured

I am glad you aren't hurt Whiff. I am a clumsy person by nature so I understand the feeling like an idiot.

At last it's cooling down. Mr. S. is at bowls so I've just enjoyed a nice ping G & T with plenty of ice, sitting out on our decking.

It's a hard life, but I do my best.

I've always been a bit of a pirate and like my rum but I got pink gin as a parent gift and I am actually loving it.

I'll have a glass too

imaround it's not that I am clumsy . I finally got diagnosed with HPX in April because my new neurologist had my blood genetically tested. My condition got worse 34 years ago. Had every test possible but it can't be be detected by MRIs etc. But found out I was born with it. Makes sense of me falling all my life having jerking limbs and seizures. There is no cure but the tablets have stopped the jerking limbs and seizures. Changed my life. Still have all the rest of the problems. But I live a full life .

Started next thread as posts are coming thick and fast and we will soon be at a 1,000. So it's set up to move to once this has filled up.

Ooh I think I'll join you Whiff and have another; cheers.

Good idea about having the next thread ready to go. I do love a forward thinker.

I mean vs unless you're on the gin too Whiff.

Ooh, dear. I'm glad you're okay Whiff!

Glad to hear you and Mr S are having lovely relaxing times smiles.

Been sorting more house stuff out with solicitor and popped over to the bungalow we want to check a few things. The vendor seems really friendly but utterly hopeless - there's only one answer to any question or form in his book, 'don't know.' Honestly, the simplest things are taking forever.
Our solicitor is hard to communicate with. The surveyor was very helpful though - literally the only person who just got on with it and actually answered whatever we asked that we've dealt with so far. Still plodding on ...

Smiles sadly haven't been able to have a drink for 34 years. Alcohol and some of my tablets don't mix. Really miss a glass of St Emilion wine. A lovely dry red.

Hugs glad the surveyor was helpful . It's about time buying and selling properties was made easier and quicker. Did contact my MP when my house fell through the second time. She past my email to the department that dealt with housing. They said there are no plans to alter selling and buying properties in England and Wales.

Hopefully everything will go through smoothly.

This might be a daft question, but what should you expect from your solicitor? We picked a local one with good reviews but so far we've found them really hard work. They send very legally worded emails with forms and tell us when to pay money but getting a question answered is either impossible or incomprehensible. There are two office girls one can't stop talking but tells you everything other than the answer to anything you ask her, the other barely says a word. The solicitor himself replies to emails in the shortest manner possible using terms we don't understand.
Is this normal?

Hugs I didn't pay my solicitor until completion . Emails where always short and to the point. If my solicitor wasn't there her assistant could answer all my questions. I could always speak to them on the phone .
As soon as I told my solicitor I was putting the house on the market she sent me all the paperwork I had to fill in about the house. Filled it all in and took it by hand along with the deeds. So she had everything once I accepted my first offer. Didn't pay the estate agent until completion either.

Everything was easy to understand no whaffle.

As whiff says, you shouldn't be asked to pay for anything until completion; everything from searches to stamp duty should be agreed up front for a set fee. I agree that getting conveyancing solicitors to get a wiggle on is like pulling teeth; it seems to be a slower process now than it ever was.

Thanks Whiff. It does seem like things are not as helpful as they should be but I'm not sure how we fix it now.

Hugs did you agree to the costs up front. My solicitor gave me a break down of costs at the start and told me if a buyer pulled out I wouldn't have to pay extra. I know some on house and home forum thread help calm etc had to pay each time a buyer pulled out.

With my estate agent I wanted a fixed rate as I wanted to know final costs plus if I decide not to sell it didn't cost me anything. Had to pay them think it was £80 before energy thingy was done. Then rest on completion.

When you do complete you don't get deeds as it's all online at the land registry. You just get a piece of paper with your reference number.

Hi hugs I agree with Whiff and Chewbacca. I've never come across a solicitor being paid prior to completion. They deduct all fees including searches etc. when they receive the money on completion and forward the balance.

Legal speak is frustrating isn't it. If there's anything you don't understand keep asking for clarification until you get it. Remember that they are working for you, providing a service that you're paying for.

Remember that they are working for you, providing a service that you're paying for.

This should be writ large! You are your solicitor's employers; you have hired them to do a job for you. You have agreed to pay them £** and, in return, they will do xyz - that is the legally binding contract that exists between you. They are accountable to you at all times until that contract is completed (house bought/sold and all payments concluded). If, at any time, you don't feel they're working quickly enough, are missing things, not explaining things to you in a clear and understandable format - tell them; you can't complete and sign legally binding documents that you don't understand and, as your legal representatives, they have a duty of care to make sure that you only sign what you do understand. Please don't be intimidated or worried about saying that you need their advice; it's their job to advise you; it's what you're paying them for. Some solicitors forget that whilst they're doing conveyancing day in, day out and "know what they're doing", their clients are not and need legal terms and processes to be explained to them. Never be afraid to insist that your questions are answered before going one step further. You're paying them for that service.

Exactly Chewbacca. If we knew all the ins and outs of conveyancing, we'd do it ourselves wouldn't we.

Morning everyone, Smileless2012, VioletSky, Chewbacca..

Trying my best this week to raise the positive flag and get on distracting myself.

Even a tiny bit of gardening works for me, is there a distraction that helps you to think positively, and not about our painful Estrangement?

Morning Sparkly! Same as you - gardening, especially when it involves hard physical exertion! I've done some of my best ripping up and replanting when "in the mood"! If the weather's against me, I'm a serial cleaner; emptying cupboards, cleaning places I've not looked at for ages or, heaven forbid..... decorating!

Morning Sparkly

I'm on school holiday (I work in a school) so I am used to having a very busy brain.

So I'm currently doing about 30 things at once.

I'm not neurotypical either so I have a tendency to start all the things and get distracted.

Makes me perfect for my job when I am trying to get phonics work done, find the sellotape for somebody, staple something for someone else, get a display board done, praise someone's picture they are waving under my nose and answer 300 questions about dinosaurs lol

I am fitting in some garden sitting, reading and phone browsing though.

Good Times