Currently in a very bad place with my parents over the last 14-15 months.
It began last year when my 7 year old son said he was worried in case he forgot a pencil that my mum and dad had given him (as silly as this sounds).
My wife and I have experienced similar things with them over the years - if things aren’t given back to them they create a very uneasy atmosphere.
I was raging - how dare they make a 7 year old feel this way.
I immediately drafted out a text to them - we aren’t the type of family to discuss things face to face as my dad can get quite confrontational though no physical abuse.
My wife made the text less angry and it was sent. No reply all day. My dad dropped my son off at night and ignored the issue completely. He turned to walk off to go home and I said “hang on, are we not going to talk about this?” and he turned around to blame it all on my anxiety.
I couldn’t believe it. He was getting away with this again!
So I got mad and told him how he did this to people all the time, made people on edge for years, made people anxious etc.
Fast forward a year, he still hasn’t spoken to me, ignores me at every opportunity (along with my wife), ignores the fact that my brother agreed with everything I said about him (still sees him and was going to take my son to see him), ignores the fact my brother bullied me when I was younger (he would stand me up in corner of a room and force me to say words I couldn’t say. He then avoided mr for the next 20 years), and I have had to cut contact with them both.
There is a whole history behind this but I won’t detail it here.
Hope someone can be compassionate with me!
They also have form for this as my two uncles also cut contact to the point my mum wasn’t told when my uncle died about funeral etc.
My brother gets on with them (despite agreeing with my points!) but he doesn’t have a wife or child and lives 25 miles away so only sees them for an hour or two every few weeks. He also keeps them at arms length.
That’s my story!
Advice needed dreaded horsetail weed.