Mum and Dad relationship

VioletSky

*I had open heart surgery*

This is a fact, we wouldn't go to someone's thread about the open heart surgery and say "well it's my opinion your heart was fine and you didn't need surgery, also... can you prove it by showing us the scar?"

The OP said their childhood was abusive and they were advised to go no contact.

Which part of your opinion matters more than that exactly?

What is so special and important about you that you can say, well, in my opinion you haven't suffered abuse because you haven't shown me the scars.

And what exactly are you going to do or say if the OP does come back and show them to you?

If the OP comes back and tells you all the painful stories they still need professional help to deal with a.d hirts themselves by doing it?

How many painful stories would be enough?

Or can we just accept "I was abused" because that is a statement of fact.?

Sometimes people come and ask for advice and it's not that simple, because clearly there is a compromise to be had or their thinking needs help, or they may make their situation worse or end up regretting a specific action.

But when they say "I have been abused" how does anyone possibly think that their opinion matters more than anothers feelings?

I truly don't understand it and why people do it on these threads

I really don't understand your post, the OP doesn't claim to have been abused by his parents. In fact his OP is outlining his annoyance at his parents for not speaking to him because of his behaviour towards his father.
The abuse he claims was at the hands of his brother when they were small, and everyone has accepted "that as a statement of fact", I have not seen any posts saying otherwise.

The Grandfather is abusive, that is clear .Norah Tue 02-Aug-22 15:02:33

Or can we just accept "I was abused" because that is a statement of fact? (Violet Sky)

Neither of these statements can be accepted as facts because they are not verifiable on this forum. They are statements of belief and are made by and about people of whom we have no personal knowledge, and are influenced by posters' personal experience, not impartial observation.

Should this grandfather read the accusations levelled at him by people with no knowledge of the family circumstances he would possibly have grounds for legal action, as was discussed in a recent post concerning other matters.

You haven't read the whole thread.

This is why we need the support thread

Should this grandfather read the accusations levelled at him by people with no knowledge of the family circumstances he would possibly have grounds for legal action, as was discussed in a recent post concerning other matters.

That is the same with every post on here.
It is also unlikely that the grandfather will read it because the poster is anonymous and he hasn't actually named the grandfather or given any identifying information.
Finally, it is unlikely the grandfather would even recognise that his behaviour is abusive as abusers don't appear to be that self aware!

Definitely Icanhandthemback

Everyone is telling theor stories here

Also isn't it legally only slander if you aren't telling the truth?

Re. your post today @ 8.14 Normandygirl that is certainly how the OP and his subsequent posts came across to me.

There appear to be a lot of issues going back to childhood that have found there way into adulthood, that are yet to be resolved.

Yes, not sure children fighting could be called parental abuse, and the OP doesn't say he was abused by his parents anyway.

Siblings fight - my two couldn't share a room without a dust up for years.?. Now they get on just fine. The OP still seems to have a problem with his sibling though.

The OP on here has long gone, so it's all speculation anyway.

I remember out boys going through that stage DL. They'd get up in the morning, their eyes would meet as they came out of their bedrooms and then they were off.

What they found to fall out about when they hadn't seen one another all night was beyond me.

our not out

Smileless2012

I remember out boys going through that stage DL. They'd get up in the morning, their eyes would meet as they came out of their bedrooms and then they were off.

What they found to fall out about when they hadn't seen one another all night was beyond me.

It used to make me laugh - my daughter was very petite (still is), and my son was tall and stocky, he played rugby for his school.

Yet, she was the protagonist - first one in there, fists flying.?

He still eyes her warily, if she starts lol