Arrested

I have been looking at your posts from 2016. If these are the same family members who you mentioned in those posts then it is a long standing problem. If now the Police are involved you have to step back and just look after yourself. Here on Gransnet you can't expect answers to this long standing issue just advice for you to take or not to help you get on with your life. You say you are disabled (in 2016 post) so that is even more reason to just concentrate on you and your health both physical and mental.

Step back. Do not contact them. I'm afraid I can't see how you were arrested for posting a birthday card, that would be ridiculous. That's harrassment.

I haven't Been a member that long. I think you may have me mixed up with someone else but thankyou so much for your input

This is very strange how can you be arrested for sending a birthday card ?? This doesn’t sound right What country are you living in ?
Has this all been going on since 2016 ? 6 nearly 7 years ago The children must be heading up to 11,12 now what’s been happening in the 6 years since you started that thread?

You now say My son and dil never said I was doing anything wrong or anything but in your previous thread they never said you did anything right !!! That’s what the whole thread was about all the things you were supposed to have done wrong

Do consider seeing a doctor tinytots

Ah yes notgran I see the June 2016 discussion you mean under Grandparenting

In days of yore I would have said that this couldn’t happen without a restraining order being issued.
But we live in different times Re police arrests.

I do remember a regular poster a few years ago also being arrested.
I can’t remember her name now, this was probably 10 years ago but arrests for harassment were happening then.
If you can OP just leave things alone.

What was written in the card? Could the son and dil have construed it as hate Mail and reported it as such? The police are very keen to act on hate crimes whilst burglaries go unheeded.

you posted in 2016. Here it

Tinytotx2 Fri 10-Jun-16 10:27:32
I look after my 2 g/c aged 4 & 5 30 to 36 hours per week including an overnight stay. I tried to negotiate a little me time but got shot down in flames when i called looking after the g/c a favour.. my son said its not a favour and that i should want to....obviously i do want too but now he wont talk to me is,,,,

Speechless!!! What is going on here?

Which was 6 years ago lemsip are we to believe this upheaval has been going on for 6 years ?

The title is ARRESTED and poster says she was sent a warrant for her arrest for sending a birthday card !!! I don’t get it I m afraid

If what you are doing is construed as Harassment or Stalking, then you can be arrested for it, I wouldn’t think the odd card would be the cause of an arrest warrant.

For an arrest warrant….

OP,

I worry that you still do not know what to do, isnt it clear?

Let.them.be,leave.them.alone

You do need professional help to ease your mind

If you wrote the 2016 post, the concerns that som and dil had are for their son's safety while he was in your care (baby food and soon)

There has to be way more to the story than this- getting arrested for sending cards doesnt make much sense

Did you have a warning from them to stop? A restraining order? Lawyers involved?
I wonder what kind of cards and how often, the messages in them

For your own sake Tinytot you need to accept the situation for what it is. As things stand you wont be seeing your son and his family so you need to make a life without them.

I'm not saying it's easy, I know it isn't. We're fast approaching the 10th anniversary of being estranged by our youngest son and from our only GC.

We did send the children cards for Christmas and birthdays but made the decision to stop a few years ago. We still buy them they're in a memory box with other items, which has been left to them in my will so I know one day they will get them.

Maybe you could the same.

I have read of caution being given for contact (sending cards and letters can be claimed as contact) which is in turn viewed as harassment.
I think you have to be arrested to be given a caution.
So may be that is the case here?

Tinytotx2 I'm sorry you are going through this awful experience.
Could you have posted before and forgotten perhaps?

I think there needs to be more background here as you'd never normally be sent a warrant over birthday cards....
Had you been asked to stop sending items previously etc?

Tinytotx2

I haven't Been a member that long. I think you may have me mixed up with someone else but thankyou so much for your input

Tinytotx As you will see others also have seen your 2016 post and quoted from it. Not really a way to get any sympathy or advice on here, if you are going to be economical with the truth. In fact, it could make us feel sympathy for your son and his wife. Please just look after yourself and don't do anything else that could land you in trouble.

Last posting and this time we have all jumped to Tinytoxt2 defence and offered sympathy and support. I do wonder, however, what the other side of the story is that we don’t get to hear? There are always 2 sides.

Presumably they have a restraining order out on you ? If this is the case do not go near them just live your own life and hope that one day things might improve.

*Tinytotx2 Fri 10-Jun-16 10:27:32
I look after my 2 g/c aged 4 & 5 30 to 36 hours per week including an overnight stay. I tried to negotiate a little me time but got shot down in flames when i called looking after the g/c a favour.. my son said its not a favour and that i should want to....obviously i do want too but now he wont talk to me*

This is what you wrote in 2016 if you really can’t remember I think you do need to visit your doctor
The title of the thread was CHILDMINDING. and you had a lot of helpful answers

You don’t get arrested in the UK for sending birthday cards, there is more to it.
You might get a police visit if you disobeyed a non contact court order, or sent abusive messages, we are only hearing part of the story.