Long story but unfortunately I have a very difficult relationship with my AD who is early 30’s.
We always had a difficult relationship since she was a teenager and I found it very hard to parent her after GCSE’s she went to live with her Father. I missed her terribly, but it was the best for her at the time. Roll on a few years and our relationship has been a rollercoaster. I’ve suffered really badly from her behaviour towards me over the years and always retreat to protect myself. We had a good relationship for a few years, up until a couple of years ago when I was very hurt by the way she treats me…(no consideration, birthdays, Mother’s Day etc etc, doesn’t keep in touch. Only when she wants something).
I thought we were getting closer but she’s literally just cut off from contacting me or keeping in touch when she promised she’d be more consistent. I know she’s very busy, job, friends, partner, getting married etc. I just feel so hurt. A few weeks ago I made effort to visit her to try and clear the air see her new home etc. birthday etc. Everything seemed fine and then she disappeared again. When I reached out to her, I was told she’s very busy. Which I can accept, but I always keep in touch with my Mum I just don’t understand why she doesn’t make the effort towards me. I daren’t reach out again as the last email I sent I got told I was too intense, too much! Trying to make an arrangement. I just feel so at a loss and very hurt. I won’t chase her as think it will do more damage. It’s absolutely horrid to feel so unloved and not wanted to be part of your adult daughter’s life. I guess I have to accept maybe we will never get through this.
