Estranged daughter and my will

As others have said, if you cut out ypyr oldest, your younger daughter may well suffer the consequences. She only has one sibling..why jeopardise that? Worse than any amount of money she may benefit from.

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User you never have a nice word to say to anyone on the estrangement threads .

Best if you keep your opinions to yourself. And stop blaming parents . It's their children who make the choice to estrange their parents . And when people like me do not know why stop calling us liars. You may sugar coat it but that's what you are doing.

Smileless2012

That's been the case for others who have estranged too, and it makes sense to me DL. I wouldn't dream of inheriting anything from someone I'd decided I didn't want anything to do with.

But surely its the message left behind which if left out is ‘you were right to disown me, I don’t love you as much as I love your sister ‘
The daughter can refuse it if she feels that strongly but surely you want to leave the message ‘no matter what you are both my girls ’
Help the kind daughter now and that ll make what you leave behind smaller but the estranged daughter will never know that
You gave birth to two girls they have your blood running through their veins. They are both part of you good and bad
I couldn’t leave a legacy of hate leave a message of love, its all we have left

Well if that's the message an EAC wants to take then they will take it BlueBelle. It's their decision to estrange and if EP's decide to disinherit them, that is their decision to take.

A legacy of hate is the legacy our son has left for us, not what we have and will leave for him.

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BlueBelle

Smileless2012

That's been the case for others who have estranged too, and it makes sense to me DL. I wouldn't dream of inheriting anything from someone I'd decided I didn't want anything to do with.

But surely its the message left behind which if left out is ‘you were right to disown me, I don’t love you as much as I love your sister ‘
The daughter can refuse it if she feels that strongly but surely you want to leave the message ‘no matter what you are both my girls ’
Help the kind daughter now and that ll make what you leave behind smaller but the estranged daughter will never know that
You gave birth to two girls they have your blood running through their veins. They are both part of you good and bad
I couldn’t leave a legacy of hate leave a message of love, its all we have left

Agreed.

Leaving them out of the will out of spite only proves that they were right all along about their parents.

Their love was always superficial and conditional. Unlucky.

I agree if they are left out of the will out of spite but once again User you are making assumptions about why people you've never met and will never know, have made the decision to disinherit.

You are right when you say sometimes the parents leave no other choice for their child but conveniently 'forget' that it's sometimes and not always the case when you constantly push your agenda of blaming EP's.

For those of us unfortunately familiar with your contributions to anything concerning estrangement as unpleasant as they are, it is now expected and is like water off a duck's back, but for anyone new to GN, it is I'm sure extremely upsetting and off putting.

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User I do not hate my son or daughter in law for what they have done . I still love my son but the son I knew for 32 years no idea who he is now . The love I had for my daughter in law died the moment I read she wrote ' FIL died to get away from MIL'. She never knew my husband and I thought how can anyone who loves my son write something so wicked about his dad. My husband died in agony unable to breath on full oxygen from cancer and she knew that .

I have only hated 2 people in my life my father in law and mother in law. I hated my mother in law for 40 years but I still looked after until she died . I was her emergency contact and saw her ever week. She out lived my husband by 11 years.

Why are you so fixated on blaming estranged parents? Always blaming us for what our children decide to do . Then make out we are bad parents .

Change the record.

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I would help youngest daughter now, as much as you can. Then leave what ever is left between the two of them.

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Thank you for that, I hadn't noticed that you've hijacked another poster's name so have reported you and hopefully all of your posts will be deleted, as will your account.

GNs, not following all of this Thread, but if a particular Poster is offending you, while staying within the rules, you do not have to read those posts, never mind responding to them.
Skip to the names you know and respect.

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Adding different digits to another poster's user name so deliberately misleading other GN members is against the rules Maremia.

There's nothing that you have posted User14823 that I would wish to learn.

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The only mistake I have made is thinking you were someone you're not.

Thank you GNHQ for your quick response.

So basically a poster has slightly changed another's user name in order to come on and make provocative and unkind remarks to an upset and hurting poster whilst misleading other regular posters about who they are! Dear me! 🙄

Yes that sums it up perfectly Madgran and is also a previously banned poster.

Smileless2012

Yes that sums it up perfectly Madgran and is also a previously banned poster.

Well in the end it didn't work