Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

Your reality will never and can never match their personal, self-serving version of reality that counts both ways L1ort.

Just a quick one but I will be back . Unfortunately Mr B had to blue lighted to a hospital in London on Sunday and had an operation on his brain as a CT scan showed a bleed. Babs was in the ambulance with him .

As you can imagine she is going through hell. They thought having him home he was on the road to recovery. And now back to square one of this cruel game of snakes and ladders only there are longer snakes and shorter ladders.

Those who have faith I know she would appreciate your prayers .

Llort, this thread is about support for those estranged, not to judge and make wild assumptions about why they have been estranged.

Babs, thoughts are with you and husband. X

Smileless2012

^Your reality will never and can never match their personal, self-serving version of reality^ that counts both ways L1ort.

Well said Smileless.

L1ort138562

That's because there is nothing to say. Your reality will never and can never match their personal, self-serving version of reality.

All you can do is cease contact.

We may be strangers online, but the people closest to them (their own children) decided that no contact was the winning move as well. Whether that's an actual coincidence or not, who knows.

Jesus Christ, another "support" thread bites the dust!!

And I just got here!

Way to go, party pooper.

Thanks for the info Whiff, sending lots of hugs to Babs and family,💐

Morning all. Sorry to read about your friends Whiff, thinking of you all.

Morning everyone.

Poor Babs and Mr. B., I can't begin to imagine how stressful and heartbreaking this must be for them and their family . I continue to pray for you x

Thanks for the update Whiff; hoping and praying for better news soon.

No need to worry Starfire, this is I'm sure the longest running thread on GN and wont be going any where. Lovely to see you here .

Yes Allsorts this is a support thread; the clue is in the title.

We had a great evening yesterday, one of this impromptu get together's with two of our neighbours which are often the best aren't they.

Whiff thanks for update.

Babs so very sorry to hear your DH is back in hospital, my prayers are with you xxx

NiceDream GN isn't just for grandparents . As there are women and men who aren't and we do have younger people under 40-50 come on GN on various threads asking questions after being on Mumsnet and not getting support but the opposite. But asking questions to their problems from older people's point of view.

Llort no idea what your point is 🤷.

I will pass on your good wishes to Babs .

It's going to be a sorcher today. No going anywhere today. Hopefully you are still home Smiles in your beautiful surroundings as it will be roasting in your flat. Glad I topped up my pond as the birds have visiting more than ever.

Went to craft group yesterday and meet some new people. One of the group wild swims decided to do it once she was 60 . Has a picture taken and put into a book as she said she can look back when she can't do it anymore. Plus she runs and cycles . I am sure she said she does triathlons for older people . But others where talking and with my one good ear and one bum bumming all the time may have misheard. Made 2 Victoria sandwiches this week . Surprised how well the gluten free one turned out as hadn't made one before. It looked and tasted like the normal one.

Upped my pedalling to 500 a day so hopefully get rid of my swollen legs.

Have courgettes on my plants and toms in the greenhouse. French beans covered in flowers ,kale growing well and have 6 bags in the freezer. Since netting my Damson tree the wood pigeons haven't been near it. So fingers crossed come September I will have enough for a jar of jam.

Some threads on estrangement forum like on other forums bite the dust because of people turning into having a dig at posters and funny enough on all those threads names pop up who have never posted before. There has been 2 notable ones on Chat over the years that had so many deleted posts they where taken down . Same on Estrangement forum.

The worse place I have seen deleted posts is on a bereavement thread 2 posts where deleted. What on earth could someone have said so cruel and awful on a thread where people are grieving for their loved ones.

Don't forget you suncream ,hats and drink plenty of fluids . Going to be hot tomorrow as well. 🌞

Smiles glad you have a lovely evening .

What I don't understand with some threads on this website, is that even though it is anonymous people don't really tell you the truth. You try to give good advice but by the 3rd page the original story is completely different!

Madgran and Smileless some people are just mean. Or allegedly sociopathic.

At still uncut the lawn and I let my cats lie in it, in the cooler evening until nearly 2 am. They were so happy when they came in.

Please send a message for Babs I will pray for her and Mr Babs.

Is a llort similar to a nilbog?

Whiff thank you for this, what a good idea.

SparklyGrandma hope you get your operation sooner than they say. Did you tell them you would take a cancellation. It’s how I got a test done quicker. Was told for tests and operations they have list of people who will are willing to have it done with short notice. They phoned me and had it the next day. Once you had the pre op you know it won't be long for the op.

I might ring tomorrow and check it out.

I don't know Sparkly but someone on another thread made a comment about the name being spelt backwards; troll!!!

Oh dear, I'm a bit slow today .

SparklyGrandma

Is a llort similar to a nilbog?

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I didn't spot that one either

I blame this heat .Troll and Goblin . But then again I won't expect people to be two faced. But they are and the same threads keep on resurfacing same story just sentences changed round . Words like toxic, narcissist, narcissistic behaviour and all the other buss words. And all the talk about what the therapist said .

What happened plain English.

Yes Whiff as you say we see the same threads and previously banned posters cropping up but we always know who they are and they get removed again eventually.

I didn't see a goblin thankfully

I think we really must understand words to use them but when we do that's ok

Sorry if talking about having therapy upset you Whiff it would never be my intention to upset anyone. For me it was just a large part of my recovery from abuse and on an anonymous forum it is so much easier to be vulnerable and share

Had a lovely dinner in the garden this evening. Nice fresh breeze.

NiceDream talk of therapy doesn't upset me . Glad it helped you . But these horrible posters always tell people who are estranged or think they are losing their children they need therapy. Them not their children. Then we have my therapist has said do this or the other . And my therapist says to cut you out of our lives plus some really outrageous advice . Which a true therapist wouldn't do .

But it doesn't just happen on estrangement threads but health and bereavement as well.

Be careful everyone as it's going to be 29+° today .

Have past your messages on to Babs and all your good wishes for Mr B .