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It's official: Grandparents are good for children

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DogWhisperer Thu 04-Jun-26 11:47:29

Spotted in an editorial in the Sunday Times 24 May 2026: "Grandparents have been found to play a critical role in young lives, exerting a quarter as much influence on a child's educational success as the parents do. Even by the age of 18 months, toddlers who see plenty of Granny and Grandad are pulling ahead."

The trigger for this editorial came from two news items: one about Jennifer Saunders' new status as a celebrity supergran, and one about a recent report published by the Social Mobility Commission entitled "The Role of Families in the Educational Outcomes of Children and Young People."

Neither of these news items specifically mentioned estrangement but the implications are clear: EAC who prevent contact between their children and grandparents for no good reason are doing their children a disservice.

For copyright reasons I can only reproduce an short extract from the editorial here, but you can find the originals at:

www.thetimes.com/life-style/celebrity/article/jennifer-saunders-absolutely-fabulous-interview-tv67twqqm

www.thetimes.com/comment/the-times-view/article/jennifer-saunders-vegetable-patch-grandchildren-grandparents-hmq90kbm5

socialmobility.independent-commission.uk/publication/the-role-of-families-in-the-educational-outcomes-of-children-and-young-people/

The two Times articles are behind a small paywall; the Social Mobility Commission report is free.

stiIlawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 14:39:13

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Smileless2012 Sun 07-Jun-26 14:46:32

There's nothing wrong with my temperament stillawipp which is why I would never respond in the way you have.

stiIlawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 14:55:14

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Smileless2012 Sun 07-Jun-26 15:03:06

I have never said that estranging from loving, conflict free relationships without any warning is as common as those who estrange from abusive parents stillawipp. I'm saying that it happens. You are the one who finds that inconceivable.

I'm sorry but your second paragraph doesn't make any sense; perhaps you could explain what you mean.

stillawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 15:12:12

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stillawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 15:14:03

Ps a couple of posts above are not me, they are from someone impersonating me!

stillawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 15:14:38

I have reported them

Smileless2012 Sun 07-Jun-26 15:18:18

Oh well spotted stillawipp I must admit the content and style were familiar but not from you; from a previously banned poster.

stiIlawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 15:38:25

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MissAdventure Sun 07-Jun-26 15:43:29

Excuse me, what om earth gives you the right fo speak to other members like this!?!?

Smileless2012 Sun 07-Jun-26 15:46:57

No worries MissA I've reported it. stillawipp's name has been hijacked for the second time this afternoon. Got to love the irony though grin.

stiIlawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 15:47:28

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MissAdventure Sun 07-Jun-26 15:47:47

Aah, i see.

Smileless2012 Sun 07-Jun-26 15:50:53

Let's just enjoy the entertainment while GNHQ sort it MissA.

stiIlawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 15:51:30

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MissAdventure Sun 07-Jun-26 15:51:38

smile good idea.

stiIlawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 16:21:22

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stiIlawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 16:49:31

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stillawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 16:59:26

Oh crikey, do I have to report each one of these individually?! Struggling to keep up!

Smileless2012 Sun 07-Jun-26 17:16:57

I think you will stillawipp.

Smileless2012 Sun 07-Jun-26 18:10:54

Thank you GNHQ.

stillawipp Sun 07-Jun-26 18:16:06

All sorted I think. As you were…🤣

DogWhisperer Mon 08-Jun-26 15:27:48

For some, just because they want to is the reason they cut their parents off

60 years ago my uncle went to Australia without telling anyone, and nobody heard from him for 6 years. He eventually got in touch again and used to send me Australian gifts which I thought were really cool, like a book about a baby kangaroo, and a boomerang which I used to terrorise people in the local park with. He did really well for himself and became a law professor in Australia and raised a family there. I never knew the details of why he went, but it sounds suspiciously like "just because he wanted to". Just saying.

Smileless2012 Mon 08-Jun-26 15:59:13

Just smile at the thought of you terrorising people in your local park with your boomerang DogWhisperer.

Perhaps as you say your uncle went away just because he wanted to.