Despair

I think money is the last the someone worried about when they think their daughter is being controlled. Money shouldn’t be a weapon against family nor should it be used to control family. People who want and/or have healthy, loving relationships with family should know this.

Calling someone a lazy slob and disgusting is very extreme.
If your daughter suspects you feel this way about him it's understandable she wants to keep away.

I would not be leaving anything to help a lazy slob.

P.S. If you decide to do this, there's no need to tell them you've done it or to discuss it with them because it would probably create further conflict.

Maybe you should think about cutting them out of your will because I can see that any inheritance they receive may be used to expand the cannabis-growing business. It may sound a bit drastic but it's common practice in the estranged parent world. You could consider leaving any money in trust for the grandchildren.

no longer on this site but I suspect has been on very recently petra.

A few of us know a member ( no longer on this site) who had 7 usernames over the years.

Unfortunately it can.

Oh.

I didnt know the first sentence could be achieved.

Banned posters can and do come back using a different name. What you're referring too fancythat are name changes that GNHQ knows about.

I thought only two name changes were allowed on this site.

All they need to do is rejoin with a different name *fancythat, time perhaps better spent trying to resolve their own anger and bitterness.

ExaltedWombat

You disapprove of her lifestyle, blame the husband and, I suspect, don’t keep these opinions to yourself! No wonder she stays away.

Is there ANY truth in the above?

Exalted Womat Why do you feel the need to be so rude and mean it says a lot about you

Smileless2012

I suspect that the vast majority of these 'new' posters are the same one or two who just keep coming back under different names.

That makes sense.
More than, there are oodles of people lining up to come on here.

It would mean though, they manage to get around the GN ban system somehow I suppose.

I've no idea Gretsel as I've never had the need to twist logic. How about you? I wonder if you find doing so as tiresome as I find posts like yours.

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fancythat as soon as a new thread appears on the estrangement forum the horrible posters appear who have never been on GN before. A friend thinks it people from momsnet. Estrangement threads are always targeted. Some political ones do get haters but no forum gets the haters like Estrangement.

We only ever hear 'one side' but it only seems to be an issue for some here on the estrangement forum when the OP is the parent who has been, or fears they will be estranged.

It never seems to be an issue when the 'one side' we hear comes from the one doing the estranging. I wonder why .

Peaseblossom

I reported OkBoomer's nasty comments and she has now been banned.

Well done!

I’ve just popped in to wish OP luck and to say perhaps those very few on here who consider being rude to a brand new and clearly distressed poster might like to take a few days off!

Absolutely no need to be so rude and it was completely unwarranted!

In fairness, although I am against laying into the OP as it's obvious they are very distressed by this estrangement but as we don't hear the estranger's voice it's difficult to advise. We really do need to know what caused the issues to make a balanced judgement.

I suspect that the vast majority of these 'new' posters are the same one or two who just keep coming back under different names.

BlessedArt

It’s getting really tiring reading nasty, uncalled for comments toward people who are hurting and experiencing family conflict in this forum.

Is it really obvious that the OP’s daughter doesn’t care about her? You know the OP and her daughter, or do you simply have magical powers that allow you to read one post and automatically know the complexities of the families of anonymous strangers online? What part of decency makes a person come online to twist the knife in a mother upset about the lack of closeness with her daughter? What type of “help” is it to say such an unfounded awful thing to a parent about their child? It’s only “obvious” that some people like to be hurtful and crass behind a screen because they have issues themselves. Between yesterday and this new awful comment, some people need to take a break from the internet.

I agree with every word BlessedArt. I think some bitter people hang around the estrangement threads in the hope of finding someone vulnerable to bully for reasons that have much more to do with themselves than the person they’re targeting.

What I find odd, since being on this site, is that of all the forums, the estrangement one draws the most, and not sure what the word is, hate? From posters that dont normally use GN?
Upset?

I have no idea if they are current members? Or join just so they can post whatever.
[And are not around long before they get banned anyway].

Smiles I reported iLUVcomedy and she has been removed and banned from GN did it last night and had email earlier today. But what she said still stands because MissA posted it. I know she didn't do it to be to hurt anyone. Those where my words. But I never take offence at MissA as she has helped me in the past on other threads

But do wish people wouldn't quote horrible posters words because even though GN can deleted them and ban them the words still stand.