pinkprincess one of the first things we have to learn as we get older, is a suitable level of humility. There will be things we can no longer do for ourselves, help we will need and to make life difficult for ourselves because we are too proud to ask or accept help is ridiculous.
My father, ex-military and fiercely independent, and managing well before his last illness, at a time in it when we expected him to recover, faced up to the fact that when he came out of hospital he would not be able to manage on his own and would need to go into care and was discussing local care homes and what facilities, he would like it to have.
How better that than pretending we do not need help, making life difficult for ourselves, and really difficult for friends and families when finally the whole edifice collapses and they have to sort out the resultant chaos.