I know she means this kindly, but she is driving me nuts!

She lost him too so is understandably concerned at losing you, she is only trying to look out for you and it makes sense to have your mobile on you.

Try being grateful that she cares.
You are neither 16 nor 48 and shocking though it is, you will need someone to call on in the years to come.

I'm 75 and don't have my phone about my person at all times.

I’m sorry for your loss and I understand that you are mourning your husband but to ask how to shut your foster daughter up shocked me. In this day and age a caring family member should be treasured not criticized, especially in today’s society.

You are lucky that you have someone who cares enough about you. She's only trying to help, understand that.

You sound very bad tempered.

I don't like being babied, either.

Difficult to tell someone that, though, when they have the best intentions.

Please don't be nasty to your Foster daughter, she sounds so caring. I know it can be annoying, but hold your tongue, and look at the estrangement thread. People who would love to have a daugher/Foster daughter like that.
Is pain making you bad tempered because you do come across as bad tempered and quite nasty. You post often and I have

I empathise totally grandtante. It's tough when caring turns to over-protectiveness. She sounds really worried about you. I don't have this with my kids but I have an allotment and was known for battling on regardless of being on crutches for years. My allotment pals trusted me and accepted my antics up trees with saws etc etc, knowing I'd have asked for help if needed. Ditto my sons who are insured to help on the allotment.

Then a new woman joined the group and told me I shouldn't go on my allotment on crutches. I'm very easy going, bore it for a while and then one day just snapped and told her to stop telling me what to do. Yikes. She stopped. Not so easy with a family member.
PS My mobile phone is always nearby but not on my body unless I'm in town with my handbag.

Cont pressed too soon
never seen your posts showing this sort of anger, I hope it all clears up soon.

I’m sorry for your loss but your foster daughter is also grieving for her foster father . I think you should cut her some slack and be thankful that you have a caring, loving daughter . She obviously very worried about you and that often comes over as nagging . Remember when she was a teen and you probably nagged her about stuff because you loved her.
Unfortunately there comes a time when the roles are reversed. I’m at this point with my DM 88 and have been for some years . You’re obviously much younger, but the death of a parent does change the roles somewhat.
And for what it’s worth , yes you should have your phone near you . Or get an Apple Watch , it has a falls alert .

Be grateful to your foster-daughter. You may need her one day. I had a very bad fall resulting in a fracture last week and I wouldn't have been able to cope without my children.
You can get a smart watch quite cheaply that you can use to call people in an emergency.

I’m sure she means well. Try not to show you are annoyed as you may come to regret any outburst. Take a deep breath, nod and smile, then do as you've always done.

The watch seems to be a good compromise.

Why don’t you reassure her that you will be careful, assuming she sees you on visits and does not live with you. Do what you want otherwise. Tell her how much you love her. Sounds like you might be irritating one another?
I am younger than you and when my family show concern, I reassure them. Sometimes they are right and I make small adjustments. She clearly loves you, priceless.

I recently learned the hard way about the advantage of carrying a mobile especially when I'm gardening. I started to fall face first into a rose bush so twisted and landed on my back, giving my head a good whack. I was stunned and bleated for DH to come and heave me up. He was only yards away in the kitchen but had the radio blaring so I was left to suffer as the rain came down. Eventually I got on my feet, spraining a muscle in the process.

Don't let this happen to you especially if you go outside. The quickest way "to shut her up" would be to follow her advice. Can't you find a garment with a zip pocket?

What a lovely girl she is to care.

Or just say "yes, I know, I'll do my best - I do appreciate you caring about me". And then at least try to remember to move it from room to room.

I know it's annoying because my adult children remind me all the time about such things.

Saying I will try to remember to xyz generally suffices.

Your poor foster daughter is not implying that you’re senile, she’s being caring. Yes I know, from experience, that they can go over the top and be jolly annoying but she’s scared that something will happen to you. Discuss the practicalities, compromise, show her you understand her concerns and she’ll be able to relax and you can both get back to enjoying your time together. I have to keep my phone on me because it’s linked to my hearing aids. If I don’t have a pocket I use a bumbag or wear an apron that does have one. You are getting older, you are on your own and you may be very grateful one day that she cares enough to annoy you.

I was fortunate I had my mobile on me years ago in my late 40’s, and needed rescuing with a locked back, its not just to do with age, mine is always on me now.

She's distressed about losing her step-father and now she's frightened she might lose you too. Try to be more understanding

Why does your foster daughter know about your bruised toes?

If she didn't know she wouldn't fuss. Don't tell her stuff that will encourage unwanted "helpful" advice.

It's not ageism.

You put up ‘with the dear girl’ and take her advice about the phone/watch/bracelet.
Many would be grateful to have someone so caring around, so deep breaths and accept her concerns gracefully.

Ah I sympathise_ it’s bad enough being injured just for not noticing the pot stand up to its tricks-but getting a lecture on top… ( bruised toes are so painful too)! I think the best way is to reassure her that your phone is usually within reach! I can’t wear a phone around my neck either - although I do have a small cross body phone bag that is tolerable in the garden etc.. I’m no good with tech but can your phone be programmed to take voice commands such as ring foster daughter? Perhaps if it does she might be reassured - even if you dont plan to use it.

Your foster daughter obviously cares about you so be kind to her.

It's possible to have an accident at any age and having your mobile phone handy is a sensible idea if you live alone. I had an accident when DH was out, broke a bone, managed to get shuffle to the stairs and sit on each step to downstairs but not as far as the phone so there I had to wait in pain until he came home some time later.

It happens, she is being sensible.