Just got congratulated for being able to use my debit card!

I am 80years old and have recently updated to an iPhone 13.
So now I pay with my phone.
So much easier than faffing around with a card.
With debit cards they quite often fail to register, so then you have to put your code in.

Try it.

Ah, ageism. One of the remaining frontiers.

ReadyMeals

I think I might have complained formally. That's not just thoughtless it's actually rude and I am sure her employers wouldn't expect those sort of personal comments to customers

Let’s hope the new guidelines come in soon which will state that there will be no law against offending someone.
Whether we like it or not those of us of an older age look old.

Old is not a four letter word. I'm 76 and have been treated like I'm demented. At a community senior lunch, this gal who was probably 40 started treating the rest of us like we were stupid. I told her, we've known the stuff she was telling us for a long time and we were not stupid. I wanted to kick her in the whatchit, but I refrained.

Me either BlueBelle

Oh dear! I have to say that some of these comments have made me laugh! People think they're trying to help, but yes it can easily come across as patronising, or make you feel that they think you're decrepit or lacking in the little grey cells. I think I would have been tempted to snap something back, like I've been using one for years and using computers for decades, but then afterwards I would probably have been cross with myself and thought, well they were only trying to help.

Negotiating the mayhem of Stansted airport for the first time, I hesitated momentarily to ascertain where I should be going. A young staff member approached me immediately and kindly guided me through fast track to security. I sailed regally by the grumpy youngsters in their queue and was through in no time. The sweet gal apologised saying that she hoped I wasn't offended. Offended!? I was chuffed!
My dear late Dad started announcing his pensioner status immediately on reaching 65...just to capitalise on the perks. He then also got compliments when people said he didn't look his age! It's a win win.

Most comments pass me by. If really patronising I might react with my Paddington hard stare, more usually I smile and add thanks when appropriate,

What did trigger a reaction was a car salesman assuring me I didn’t need a particular item in a car that I had specified as essential. He had been generally very patronising. At one point wondering how long we’d be driving for. I snapped and pointed out I’d been driving longer than he had been alive and was perfectly aware of what I both wanted and needed in a car. Mr C rapidly decided we’d be best go elsewhere! Perhaps I should have remonstrated with myself afterwards - I didn’t.

What a cow!

How rude!

Huia

I’m not dementing and as far as I know I look and sound quite normal. I’m sure my middle aged daughters would let me know if I didn’t !
The supermarket checkout woman congratulated me on being able to use my card! “Most old people fumble, so good for you”. 😳
I said “I’m not old” . Shocks me that we are perceived as so feeble -I’m 80 next month . I manage the club web site -bet she couldn’t do that!

I'd have been tempted to give her the death stare and a few choice words!

What is wrong with accepting help when needed?
I love it when people show their caring side and watch out for me.
Following hand surgery I struggle with opening carrier bags. At the till the other day the check-out assistant asked if I would like her to pack the bag.
I said yes please, and she did.
I didn't feel patronised because I was 'old,' I thanker her for her consideration to me as a person.

Witzend

CabbageWars13

Maybe you should be grateful she didn't pat you on the head and gush "good girl!"

(She didn't pat you on the head, did she?)

Not to mention, ‘Aw, bless!’

I wonder, has anyone ever been fined/prosecuted for thumping a person guilty of such patronising remarks?

That made me laugh. Ha Ha!

keepingquiet

What is wrong with accepting help when needed?
I love it when people show their caring side and watch out for me.
Following hand surgery I struggle with opening carrier bags. At the till the other day the check-out assistant asked if I would like her to pack the bag.
I said yes please, and she did.
I didn't feel patronised because I was 'old,' I thanker her for her consideration to me as a person.

I agree. I rarely need help, but I expect polite behaviour.