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Has anyone else heard this?

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fancyflowers Wed 25-Feb-26 01:43:58

My mother, when she was alive, used to call old people 'old biddies.'

When we talked about her going into a care home, she said that she was never going to go into one as they were all full of 'old biddies.'

Is this a Northern expression or was it a common phrase in the past?

Boadicea Thu 26-Feb-26 14:12:56

My friend (we are both in our very early 70s) will tell me she's just been "biddying about" at home: i.e.doing "old people" things like knitting, minding grandchildren, potting up plants etc.
I know I'm an old biddy but sometimes I forget I'm probably older than some of the people I might refer to as old biddies!

Onetoein Thu 26-Feb-26 14:13:49

Old saying, also Old crusties!

Boadicea Thu 26-Feb-26 14:14:45

A term I've heard (and used) throughout my life and I've lived all over England (as well as Aden, France, Singapore and Australia!)

Cossy Thu 26-Feb-26 14:19:04

We all, in Essex, use the expression “old biddies” My DM’s DM came from Lancashire

Cossy Thu 26-Feb-26 14:19:35

Boadicea

My friend (we are both in our very early 70s) will tell me she's just been "biddying about" at home: i.e.doing "old people" things like knitting, minding grandchildren, potting up plants etc.
I know I'm an old biddy but sometimes I forget I'm probably older than some of the people I might refer to as old biddies!

I love this 🤣🤣

Lollipop1 Thu 26-Feb-26 14:33:15

Esmay

I think that it's rude .

It's not rude. I'm an old biddy. You can call me that, you can call me love or dear and I recently signed an email to a dear friend from childhood as from an 'old bint' and I've no idea where that one comes from, have you?

Cronesrule Thu 26-Feb-26 14:33:46

N.B. My username! I am reclaiming “crone” as a term of mature female power! I don’t feel I have reached “biddy” stage yet. But will be proud to achieve Biddydom! I think it’s a common term. Never thought it was derogatory but can be patronising, like “old boy” and “old girl” sometimes considered to be. The idea of “biddying about” appeals. I think I do that already!

bigmama1960 Thu 26-Feb-26 14:36:43

We used to say this in Staffordshire where I grew up.

NannyMags Thu 26-Feb-26 15:17:03

Its a London expression. One of my adult children used to live over the road from a care home and she told me her little one waves at the biddies. Little one called them the nannas.

Peaseblossom Thu 26-Feb-26 15:42:38

I am 75 very soon, and I have heard that expression all my life, and I come from East London. I remember my mother-in-law saying it, but not my mother. I've said it myself before too, the problem is I am now one myself! Ha ha! Although of course old is always at least 10 years older than you yourself are, as we keep moving the goalposts to suit our age!

Peaseblossom Thu 26-Feb-26 15:46:23

Cronesrule I haven't heard of biddying about and I don't like the sound of it.

Nanny123 Thu 26-Feb-26 15:55:27

We use this saying down south

Fattyboomboom Thu 26-Feb-26 15:55:49

We say that in Scotland too.

Lizzie44 Thu 26-Feb-26 15:56:51

As an old biddy myself,I don't mind the expression - there are a lot more derogatory expressions out there for the elderly....

Labradora Thu 26-Feb-26 16:00:39

Yup. Used in Liverpool where I grew up.
Used of women not men.
Info in Graphite's post very interesting.
I always wondered why Scottish women used the endearment " Hen".
I'm sure that I used the term" old biddies" myself when I was younger
I might have been kinder had I realised that one day I would become one.🤣🤣🤣🤣

Alison333 Thu 26-Feb-26 16:01:32

'Old biddy' was also used in the south west of England where I grew up. I've always thought it a patronising term used for an older woman. Not polite!

Nannan2 Thu 26-Feb-26 16:02:25

Yes used to that term,'old biddies' its northern use often still heard(both yorkshire& lancashire)& my late scottish mother- in-law also used it.So it appears to be known everywhere,generally,but not amongst the younger 'uns 😆

sixandahalf Thu 26-Feb-26 16:03:44

Lollipop1

Esmay

I think that it's rude .

It's not rude. I'm an old biddy. You can call me that, you can call me love or dear and I recently signed an email to a dear friend from childhood as from an 'old bint' and I've no idea where that one comes from, have you?

I think bint is Arabic.

Casdon Thu 26-Feb-26 16:07:26

Isn’t it originally from the Irish, I’m sure it’s a Christian name there? My Dad calls men of a similar age old codgers, so it’s not just older women who are labelled.

Nannan2 Thu 26-Feb-26 16:08:53

Old duffers was referring to to the old men,as was old codgers.

Nannan2 Thu 26-Feb-26 16:10:51

Yes,as was metioned,'biddy' also a nickname or shortened name for Bridget.

Casdon Thu 26-Feb-26 16:12:35

Nannan2

Yes,as was metioned,'biddy' also a nickname or shortened name for Bridget.

So an older version I guess of people now being called a Karen, which I don’t like at all, and my name is not Karen.

Seapebble Thu 26-Feb-26 16:20:11

My friends and I use it a teeny bit ironically to describe things. So Biddy-pass for bus-pass, biddy discounts, got my comfy biddy-shoes on etc. It was used in the South when we were kids (never in a nice way) but I don't hear it much now - probably because I've joined the ranks of crones, codgers, oldies, farts, wrinklies etc. Eff 'em! They'll all get there soon enough. The young whipper-snappers as the oldies used to say.

Lollipop1 Thu 26-Feb-26 16:26:07

Alison333

'Old biddy' was also used in the south west of England where I grew up. I've always thought it a patronising term used for an older woman. Not polite!

'Pet' is somehow patronising. As you age people tend to treat you as if you're senile. I have to bite my tongue as I know it's not meant as an insult.

Grannybags Thu 26-Feb-26 16:29:30

My Dad used to call me Pet!