Dinner time probs

No response from OP. Methinks yet another windup post, to get everyone worked up. This site is being flamed.

Yes it seems as if this thread is a wind-up ?

DD2 used to be a slow eater. When DD1 started school she came home for lunch and I thought DD2 would never have finished eating in time to take DD1 back to school. I had visions of pushing her along in her high chair, eating her pudding! I used to sit knitting while DD2 was eating up. Quite relaxing, really.

Yes it seems as if this thread is a wind-up


As Brenda from Bristol said:
"Not another one"!

I don't think it ought to matter that they are slow eaters as long as they're behaving nicely and not playing with the food. They will soon grow out of it.

If I was in the room, I'd tell them to pelt Granny with the food

[ducks for cover]

There are now classes for 'picky eaters'!!

Am I the only fast eater on here? I can't bear cold food and always eat as fast as I can while it is still hot! I always eat the boring bits first and save the best bits until last, so wouldn't dream of leaving them on my plate.
Having said that I wouldn't force anyone else to do the same, especially small children.

Most children eat at their own pace until they're satisfied.

When my grandchildren visit we all sit at the table and socialize. The children join in the conversation and it usually takes them several minutes to eat their food....after that, they may or may not ask to be excused. They also know to put their plate next to the sink and that it's not an issue if there's still any food left left on them.

If you insist they finish before they're ready, they may actually get an upset stomach from being forced to eat hurriedly. Similarly, being forced to eat everything on their plate is detrimental. Dinnertime should be a pleasurable, stress free event.

Not sure if my message reached on here
I am devasted for their plight and I cannot imagine how their poor parents and families are feeling .. Please God let everybody get out safely

Sorry wrong message ! I’ve posted accidentally

Retr0gran is an existing GN poster who posted before on a thread in Relationships about feeling estranged from the grandchildren she rarely sees.

I believe this thread is a legitimate one.

Although I do not share OP’s views, I too think it is entirely genuine.

Maybe therein lies the 'eating problem'.

If Retr0gran rarely sees her Grandchildren perhaps she is not that close to them to understand their ways or their food likes and dislikes.

She could be over fussing and over compensating for the amount of time she hasn't/doesn't have contact with them.

Are you sure muffinthemoo and MawBroon?

The only other thread I recall started by this poster was one about a DGD needing the toilet and DD refusing to let her go .....
We've had one or two of those

www.gransnet.com/forums/chat/1248652-Pull-in-or-not
even the most caring Gransnetters tended towards scepticism

Jalima the one post I remembered was last one of page 2 of this (incredibly sad) thread. www.gransnet.com/forums/bereavement/1244165-Grief?pg=2

That was where I recognised the username from, is this one poster with two usernames? (retrogran and Retr0gran)

Never seen the toilet one before! (When you need to go, you need to go...)

I'm not at all surprised that OP hasn't come back. She asked for help/suggestions and has had slmost entirely criticism (some quite unpleasant), almost no sympathy and now people thinking she's a wind up! Ok I agree with a lot of what has been said but the tone has been very critical. I have several times come across people frustrated by slow eating children and see no reason to doubt this post.

muffinthemoo I didn't see that post - in which case I apologise to Retr0Gran - do you think someone has hijacked her name perhaps?

I have several times come across people frustrated by slow eating children and see no reason to doubt this post.
Well, these people will have to learn to be more patient, allow for this, unless they want the child to develop eating problems in their teenage years.
To make children cry because they are slow eaters is inexcusable. I can remember when it happened to me (at school) and the distress can make your throat close up so that you can't swallow at all.

I asked for my post to be deleted which explained that in fuller details.

Sorry, but I always take situations back to attention seeking, especially where food is concerned. I’d leave the table, and then, if they’re not eating, I’d remove the plates.

I must disagree with you Daddima - if children are 'messing around' at the table that is one thing, but being a slow eater then being pressured to eat quickly is quite another thing. And I should also add that, as I know from personal experience, receiving attention is the worst thing that can happen.

I have a son who was a terrible eater when he was very young .He was over 11 weeks prem and wouldn't feed so we had to cut a bigger hole in the teat and virtually pour milk down his throat .Once he was weaned there was a very limited amount of things he would even put in his mouth and I used to spend most days cooking constantly trying to find something...anything he would eat.When he was 15 months and we were at my SIL 's wedding he weighed less than 15 pounds and wore clothes for 3-6 month old babies.
I never lost my patience with him and disregarded peoples "advice" about force feeding him..apart from the hospitals advice re his milk .He is still very slim at 30 ,just over 8 stone though he will eat anything put in front of him.I know from experience how hard it is to have a very slow eater.You will just be lining up problems though,if you make them cry over food .

if there are problems with the relationship then making slow eaters cry is not going to go down well.

I suggest put a selection of food in serving dishes and let them decide how much they fancy.

Being a slow eater is NOT attention seeking.

Sorry, just to clarify, I didn’t mean chewing slowly, but rather leaving the table and “ messing about”, as mentioned previously.