Cousins

First cousins have the same grandparents, second cousins have the same great-grandparents
but don't forget there was a lot of illegitemacy in past years. You would have to follow the mother's line. Also some girls were just taken in to work as maids etc and were put on the census as Daughter.

I met up with a lost cousin who I last saw aged about 8. When I saw her and spent an afternoon with her I was convinced we were not genetically related. This feeling was very strong and I never saw her again.

I think they like to trace their roots JackyB - DH's Canadian cousins have done a lot of research which was very interesting when it was linked up with what I had done.
It's good to share information as 'missing links' can often be found.

Candelle we don't have debauchery (not that I've found) but do have an arrest for sheep-stealing which warranted six months' imprisonment - although I suppose my GreatX4GF could have been deported for that.

One of my Canada cousins is the same, JackyB.
She researched my Dad's (and her Mum's) line and found that a ggGrandfather was born in Russia - which explains a bit about my political views

And all these years we've been calling our cousins' children our second cousins when they should have been First cousins once removed.

On my husband's side, we, too, started meeting on a NAF basis after the funerals were all over.

My cousin in Canada has found out some really interesting things about the family in her genealogy research. Why is it that those who are farthest away are most interested in this sort of thing?

My mother was an only child but she was always close to her cousins (the children of her mother's siblings).

I only met these cousins at funerals and thought it would be fun, as adults, to arrange a 'Not-a-Funeral-Lunch', which I do once a year.

One cousin has done an enormous amount of amazing genealogy research and it is fascinating to see and hear stories of our past relations.

I always ask for newspaper article of debauchery, arrests etc., but sadly, they are lacking. What boring lot!

That reminds me, it's time to arrange another NAF lunch!

Sorry, I don't understand all this second cousin twice removed stuff. They are barely related so who cares.

Some people care and find it very interesting!
We had a first cousin twice removed of DH visit us from overseas not long ago. She found us through Ancestry. Luckily she was very nice.

You do realise I've thanked you for a link, don't you?


You're very welcome djen

Out of interest, nipsmum, why are you on a genealogy thread if you don't care?

Out of interest?
If my grandson asks should I say, "Who cares?"

By the way, if you go on the link online, the relationships light up yellow. Very clever. Perfect for simple people like me.

Sorry, I don't understand all this second cousin twice removed stuff. They are barely related so who cares. Why do they need to be labelled?

You do realise I've thanked you for a link, don't you?

Thanks for that chart, Jalima.
My grandson is often asking about what relationship he is to .....
I wouldn't mind, but I was a member of Ancestry for years and never saw that!

Google Relationship chart. Several will appear and it is really easy to work out the relationships.

I only have one cousin. Always envied friends who had a few of them. My children have four cousins but next generation I'm losing count!!!!

Only 8 first cousins, Tricia?
I've got 41. I'm in touch with about 20 of them, the rest I've never met as they live as far apart as NZ, S Africa and US/Canada...

Definitely 2nd cousin once removed

You have just answered something I was thinking about. I am going to a meeting with my Dad's cousin's son and later with another of Dad's cousin's daughter. DS has been in touch with this relative and I was puzzled as to the connection.

I think the term is used more when researching genealogy but it is quite interesting to work out relationships. I just refer to my cousins' DC/DGC as 'my cousin whoever's daughter/son/DGC' if we're talking amongst ourselves.

I've had a lot more contact with my cousins over the last few years, since a few of us have died. There used to be 12 of us, now only 8
When we mention our children and grandchildren we just refer to them as so and so's children, not 2nd, 3rd cousins etc.

If DH and I had a 'cousins' meet-up we would need the O2 Arena (at least)!

They had a lot of children in the olden days, all spread far and wide around the world now.

There are lots of charts online to help you work it out, here's one from Ancestry:
www.myrelative.com/html/relationship.html

My very family-minded nephew calls the ever growing number of descendants in our family, "kissing cousins". I believe that is an American term but in our family it is taken to mean anyone with a blood tie how ever little that may be. Works for us.

I'm standing with Humbertbear. All just cousins. We also don't bother with step after a single generation. So step parents and children but after that just grandparents, grandchildren etc. What do others do?

I'm with Boggles . . . lost the will to live at "once removed"!!! . . . .

My family is far too complicated to start working out 'removes'. We just call everyone cousin including the cousins of my cousins who are no blood relation at all.